Love is something that makes us human. We all want to love and be loved, but sometimes, we wind up in stormy seas. You may find yourself not allowing your love its full potential by limiting your relationship.
This usually comes from within oneself, but you may simply not be aware of it in the beginning. It may be a lack of self-confidence, a previous toxic relationship, or the fear of the unknown.
It’s like an invisible shield that keeps you from growing and every time you try harder, you just bounce back off of it. It can sure be discouraging at times, but once you get through it, you enter a whole new world.
The first step you need to take in order to stop limiting love in your relationship is to recognize the problem. That’s half the work done and the progress will only become smoother as you progress.
I know it can be confusing – it will take some time for you to figure out the root of the problem. You might’ve never thought that it could be you, but sometimes, it’s good to reflect back on ourselves.
What you discover may be shocking at first, but don’t blame yourself for it. After you’ve learned to accept yourself, accepting someone else will be plain sailing.
Perhaps you’ve noticed how your relationship has been staggering lately. Nothing’s different, so what’s the deal?
Well, there may not be changes obvious to you because they started from the inside. Once you figure out that it’s you you need to work on, these restrictions will begin crumbling down.
Here are some of the ways you can stop limiting love in your relationship.
1. High expectations
This probably wasn’t what you were hoping to hear, but here we are. As little girls, we were always bombarded with the image of a happy ever after.
Prince Charming on his white horse who’s going to swoon us the second he sees us. Well, this latter part has probably happened. But ever noticed how in the cartoons they never show us the rest of their life?
It’s because first impressions are important and we all try to present ourselves in the best light possible. However, what comes after that is crucial.
So, you may think that something’s changed in your relationship whereas you just got through that honeymoon phase. The butterflies are still there but they’re kind of hiding.
Now, you immediately jump to conclusions that something’s wrong when often, it’s not. Your relationship is totally fine, it’s just you lacking that thrill of getting to know each other.
High expectations can be troublesome for both you and your partner. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have any because we all look forward to certain things. I’m saying how you shouldn’t expect everything to be smooth sailing.
There will be some ups and downs in your co-life, but that’s totally normal. You’re allowed to struggle at times – and that doesn’t automatically mean your partnership isn’t healthy.
Don’t get ahead of yourself. Just try to go with the flow and see where life takes you.
2. Fear of the unknown
New people and new relationships can be stressful, especially if you’ve recently gotten out of one that didn’t end well. You might be afraid of expressing your love for your new boyfriend because it wasn’t appreciated earlier.
It’s tough, particularly when you’ve only just emotionally recovered from your toxic ex. You may cower and have a lot of insecurities, but you need to learn to let go.
I may sound crazy to you right now, but it’s a necessary step to stop limiting your love in a relationship. You want unconditional love on both sides? Then you’ve gotta give to get something in return.
Be open about how you feel and express your concern without fearing the consequences. If you’ve found yourself a good guy, trust me, he’ll understand and support you.
There’s no benefit to hiding from your new love. Life is happening right now and it’s up to you whether you’re going to make the best out of it.
This is something I was doing unintentionally. I mean, for the longest time I was totally unaware of it, and then it hit me. It smacked me in my face, and woke me up from my daze.
I was unknowingly comparing my current boyfriend with my ex in everything they did. I don’t think we should be blamed for that as long as it wasn’t intended.
Sometimes it becomes a habit because you spend so much time with your significant other. I became used to the ways of my life with my previous partner, so I got stuck with them in my new relationship.
It’s alright if you don’t want to admit that to yourself and you keep on doing it. No one is forcing you to do or change anything. But I’ve managed to accept it and overcome it, and I can assure you that it’s made the world of a difference.
If you don’t move on from your previous relationship and you continue comparing your ex with your new partner, it’s a disaster waiting to happen. Actually, it’s a perfect recipe for unhappiness.
Therefore, once you come to the realization of this problem, try your best to leave the past behind you. Focus on your new partner and your common goals and future.
4. You don’t love yourself
A lot of people don’t know they’re their own number one fan. You should always root for yourself and support yourself no matter what.
You’re your only, true best friend – the one who’s never going to leave no matter whatever happens. However, we don’t give it much thought because we’re so reliant on others to back us up and give us unconditional love.
What most of us aren’t aware of is the fact that you have to love yourself first, so others can love you. That’s why you have to accept who you are and be open about it.
Once you learn to love yourself, you’ll be surrounded by unconditional love from your partner in no time. You’re going to radiate positive vibes, which will reflect positively on both of you.
That way, you’ll stop limiting love in your relationship.