You’ve probably been too long in a relationship with the wrong man and you’re simply waiting for the right time to break things off.
You’re holding out to see if things are going to get better at some point. Breaking up with him right now seems like such a hassle that you simply can’t get it done.
You’ve been through a lot with this man and it definitely doesn’t seem like your heart will be whole once you break up with him. No one is putting up a guarantee that you won’t be as broken and bruised as he might be – if not more.
It’ll hurt you both. The issue is that you can’t avoid it, so if you still have any excuses as to why you’re not breaking up with him, even though you’re obviously not right for each other, I’m here to remind you.
Let me put it bluntly: It’s time to break up with the wrong man right here, right now.
1. You’re lying to him
You’re lying to him about your actual feelings. He thinks that you’re honest when you say that you still love him. He thinks that everything’s alright. But he doesn’t know that you’re lying about how you’re really feeling.
How would you like it if the man you’re seeing is secretly harboring awful feelings toward you? Would you truly be alright with that?
It doesn’t matter that you don’t love him anymore or that you think that you’re not right for each other, he still deserves to know the truth. He deserves to know that you’ve been thinking about this.
He’s not the right person for you, obviously, but he still doesn’t deserve to be lied to.
If you don’t want to break up with him just yet, at least sit him down and tell him what’s been eating at you. You don’t have to break up completely.
Tell him that you’ve been thinking about it. Tell him that you don’t know where to go from here and that you don’t know if anything can fix it.
He has the right to know if you feel like you want to break up with him. He’s probably under the impression that everything’s peachy. He probably has no idea what’s going on because he can’t just read your mind.
2. You deserve to be happy
Unhealthy relationships make you miserable. It doesn’t matter if they’re romantic or platonic, any type of relationship should make you happy.
If they don’t, then it doesn’t matter how badly you want to keep your relationship intact. It’s always going to make you miserable.
You’re staying because you feel guilty leaving when there isn’t an actual reason to leave. People tell us that the only right reason to leave is when we were cheated on or abused.
No one ever tells us that the lack of happiness is reason enough to walk away.
So I’m here to tell you that it really is enough. You shouldn’t stay with someone if you’re swallowing your misery every single time you kiss them. You deserve to be happy and you deserve your happily-ever-after.
No one has the right to tell you that you need to stay because he’s a good guy. He can be just as good (and probably better) for someone else.
You’re the one who’s unhappy with him and you’re the one who’ll stay miserable as long as you stay with him. You need to end things with him if you want to give yourself the chance to search for your own happiness.
3. You’re extending your stress
If you already know that you won’t stay in this relationship for much longer, then you might as well walk away right now. There’s no right time to break up with someone, so that can’t really be your excuse.
If you’re thinking of walking away sooner or later, you shouldn’t want to lead them on any further. You’re only stressing yourself out more about how to do it and how much you’ll hurt him.
There’s no reason for you to stay if you’re sure there’s no way you’ll change your mind.
You’re only winding yourself up with your overbearing thoughts. You’re consumed by your overthinking mind and you can’t stop it even when you hug him and kiss him.
You want to pretend as if everything’s fine, but it’s taking a huge toll on you.
This can’t be good for your mental health at all. Don’t you think that he’d be more grateful if you did it right now, rather than when he’s fallen even deeper in love with you?
4. Both of you will be able to heal
You’ve probably thought of how much pain it’ll cause to you both, but it’s just like ripping off a band-aid. It’ll hurt and it might even bruise a bit, but you’ll both be able to heal and move on.
Sometimes it’s hard to picture yourself without someone and those thoughts lead you to believe that you shouldn’t break up with him.
He makes you sad and doesn’t treat you right, or you’ve simply fallen out of love with him. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, you’re still too scared to break up because you’re both too fragile.
You don’t know how much it might break him, so you’re simply too scared for both of you.
But believe me when I tell you that you will heal. You will be loved again. Both of you. You will both find someone who will make you way happier than you are now. That someone will show you how a soulmate should actually feel.
So don’t worry.
And even if you don’t find someone right away, you’re better of by yourself than with someone who makes you feel miserable. You should be able to be single rather than settle for someone who obviously isn’t the right one for you.
He’s the wrong man. You’re both wrong for each other.
And once you realize that and you break up, you’ll be able to let go completely.