Many women out there think that they need a man. When push comes to shove, you believe that you can’t get through it by yourself.
I once heard that life is a delicious cake, with the icing and the filling and all the sugary goodness. A man is just the cherry on top that makes things seem a bit nicer.
Would the cake still be amazing without the cherry? Absolutely.
The thing is that we forget to honor our individuality and our independence when we step into a relationship. That’s when we think the person we’re with is a necessity in our life.
Just because you love him, doesn’t mean you need him in order to be happy.
It’s hard to grasp for most of us when we say that we don’t truly need other people in our lives, especially someone like a romantic partner, but it’s true.
Here are just some of the reasons why.
1. Being in a relationship doesn’t equal happiness
How many people do you know are in totally toxic and/or abusive relationships? Probably too many.
And they never once seem to realize they don’t need their partner to be happy, even though that particular relationship is only making them more miserable.
You are the one who’s responsible for your own happiness. Because of that, you can’t really say that you need your partner to be happy.
You were happy for a long time before him. Come to think of it, there have been plenty of times where he made you so mad or sad that being with him only caused you stress.
You obviously don’t need him. His presence just makes your life a little more fulfilled.
It makes you feel good when someone is validating you and caring for you. You don’t have to worry that you’ll fall ill and have no one to nurture you, or fall on tough times and have no one to support you.
That’s a big burden off of your shoulders.
But that doesn’t mean that you need him. You can get that same validation and care from your platonic relationships as well, or from your family.
If you’re being honest, it doesn’t really have to be that particular man, right?
2. A career will probably stay longer than a man
Fighting for your own career is one of the most important things you can wish for.
Of course, there are women out there who choose to get married and have children because that’s their own source of happiness – and that’s completely fine.
They have their own happiness and it doesn’t mean that their men automatically own them.
But when you’re pursuing your own independence and working toward a future for yourself in a career you’ve always dreamed of, you simply know that you don’t need a man.
This is a personal preference, of course. A career simply won’t wake up one morning and decide that it doesn’t love you anymore. Your career won’t be able to cheat on you, abuse you, manipulate you, or deceive you.
And if these things do happen in your workspace, it’s not your career’s fault.
And should you break up with your partner, you’re still able to have your own career. You’re able to stand on your own two feet, even when there isn’t a man to support you.
The issue is that men today still expect a woman to give up her career to be with the children. That’s the worst thing you could do if you’re the type who wants to work and be independent.
When you realize that you don’t need a man, you also realize you should never have to sacrifice your career for him.
3. If he does leave, the world won’t end
How long were you able to live before you met him? How old were you when you met him? Were you in your twenties? Your thirties?
So many decades passed before you even met him. So why would you for a second believe that you wouldn’t be able to survive if you two split up?
When you’re single, you want a relationship so bad, to the point where you forget that you’ve lived by yourself for so long.
You forget that you’ve been so independent for how many years. You’re just fixated on this man that might come in your future.
So when you do meet that man and fall madly in love with him, you believe your life will be miserable without him. You’ve gotten so used to being loved and validated by this man that you’ve forgotten how to do that yourself.
But remember that a life without him is completely and utterly possible. There’s no one you need in this life but yourself. You only can’t live without yourself. Everyone else is just an asset to your life.
4. You love yourself
When we fall in love, we sometimes completely forget to love ourselves. But you can’t be happy in a relationship if you’re not happily single.
You need to love yourself. You have to be able to look in the mirror and pay yourself compliments.
Sure, he can shower you with compliments, but that won’t make you feel confident and love yourself. His compliments are nice and sweet, but when you’re able to compliment yourself out of your own self-love, it’s true love.
So you don’t need a man to make you feel loved and confident.
You may want a man in your life, but you definitely don’t need him.
You may want him to add more color to your life, but it can also be absolutely amazing when you’re able to live your life fully without a romantic partner.
The only person you do need in this life is yourself. Everyone else is just a cherry on top.