It’s so tough to find a partner nowadays who won’t cheat on you but be able to resist the urge to find another woman.
Sometimes it seems as if searching for a faithful partner is a mission impossible. Why? Because many guys will cheat and hope you won’t find out about it.
There are many reasons a guy may decide to cheat on his partner. It could be that he’s not happy in the relationship. Or perhaps he’s using it as an excuse to avoid the problems you’re having as a couple.
Most people who have been cheated at least once in their life have found out about it.
Even if you decide to give him second chance, things will never be the same as they were. A relationship changes irrevocably once one partner has cheated.
You’ll never be able to forget what he did and you’ll always resent him for doing it to you.
Every time he gets closer to you and tries to touch or kiss you, in the back of your mind will be the image of him touching and kissing the other girl too. You’ll be aware of the fact that at one point, you weren’t the only one for him.
Living with the truth isn’t easy; of course not. But it’s better to get hurt by the bitter truth than be comforted by a lie.
You shouldn’t accept any of his excuses for what he did to you because no matter what, cheating on someone is never excusable. Some women accept their partner’s apology and take them back, but there’s no guarantee that the relationship will work the second time.
Most women forgive because they are in love and despite everything that their men have done to them, they can’t walk away.
Remember, once trust is broken, it’s almost impossible to build it back up again.
So, here’s why giving a cheater a second chance won’t work.
1. He embarrassed you
Don’t ever forget that cheating is a choice, not a mistake. He did it on purpose, which means that he has cheated on you, knowing full well that his actions would hurt you.
He showed how little he respects you by being with another woman instead of you.
Truth be told, he never thought about what other people would think about his actions. He didn’t care that others would find out about his infidelity as he went behind your back. He didn’t even feel sorry.
It might be that your friends knew about him cheating on you but didn’t have the courage to say it to your face.
But he didn’t care they would find out about it anyway. He embarrassed you and continued on with his life as if nothing happened.
Before giving a cheater a second chance, ask yourself this: Are you prepared to be with him if he was able to embarrass you like that? Do you really want to give him a second chance?
2. The trust is broken
His infidelity leads you to not being able to trust him again. His actions have proved to you he doesn’t respect you as a woman and his partner.
He was selfish enough to only think about his needs and emotions, instead of considering yours.
He did have a choice and he chose not to take your feelings into consideration.
Now it’s up to you to decide if you’re going to live your life without him or if you’re going to give him another chance.
But remember, he chose to walk over your heart and break it. His choice was to be with another woman and he didn’t even think twice about how you’d feel about it.
So, how can you be certain that he won’t do it again? How can you be sure that he won’t seize another opportunity to do the very same thing again? Well, you can’t. You just have to have trust, but how can you if the trust is broken?
You know what people say: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
Having trust in your partner is essential if you want to have a successful and healthy relationship. Once you feel betrayed by your partner, you won’t be able to trust him the same way you did before – ever.
3. He’ll do it again
If you decide to give him another chance, there’s a strong possibility that he’ll do it again. He might repeat the same mistake twice because he’ll subconsciously be reassured that you’d end up forgiving him as you did before.
You’ll see how he behaves differently toward you and he’ll start doing things that might hurt you even more than cheating. Don’t think that he’ll change just because he promised he’d do so for you.
That’s why you can expect him to cheat on you again. He knows he has your love and devotion and he’ll use that to his advantage.
4. He doesn’t love you enough
Now let’s be honest, you have to face the facts here. If he loved you enough, he wouldn’t go out and find another woman. I know it’s tough to hear it, but it’s true.
If he loved you the way a woman should be loved, then he wouldn’t cheat on you in the first place.
He’d find everything that he needs and wants in a relationship just by being with you. He wouldn’t even think about being with another woman because you are more than enough to him.
By cheating, he showed you how little he cares for you.
Love should be a beautiful thing. And he made you question your own self-worth and sanity. That’s not what love is about.
Even if he says that he’s sorry, don’t fall for his mind games and empty promises, and whatever you do, don’t let him shift the blame onto you.