I realize now that he doesn’t love me, and it was the toughest thing I had to admit to myself.
When I asked my boyfriend if he loved me, he said he didn’t love me anymore. The signs were all there, and I often thought, “He doesn’t love me,” and no matter how much I loved him, he didn’t love me back.
If you’re also asking yourself if he loves you, I’ll help you with this article.
Now I realize he doesn’t love me back, I know I have to move on. Unrequited love is the worst, and when he said he didn’t love me, those were the most painful words I could hear. He didn’t have to say it, however, because I knew he didn’t love me.
What to do in a situation like this? When I realized he didn’t love me, I talked to him and wanted to see if there was a chance we could work it out.
I wanted to fight for him even though he didn’t love me. However, I soon realized that I don’t need to settle for that, and I’ll find someone who’ll love me as much as I love him.
So, I ended the relationship with the man who said he didn’t love me. I won’t lie to you, it was hard, but after a while, I put myself back together and I no longer think, “He doesn’t love me,” all the time.
He doesn’t love me, so what’s the point in chasing him? You don’t need to put yourself through that, and you should never chase a man.
There were all these warning signs that showed he didn’t love me, but I ignored them for so long. I simply had to hear it from him, he had to say those words so I could believe it.
Don’t put yourself through that, because I’ll tell you about those warning signs, and once you see them, it’s time to leave. You deserve to be with someone who will love you with all their heart, and you will find that someone.
I’ll tell you about the signs that show a man doesn’t love you, but let me first tell you how I got over it. You can do the same, and it will help you speed up the process of moving on.
1. I took some time away from him
You need to distance yourself from the man who has hurt you, which is the first step in the process of healing.
This also prevents unnecessary fights and angry texts. You need him to give you some space so you can sort out your feelings.
Try and stop constantly thinking, “He doesn’t love me,” and use the no contact rule and block him on social media so you won’t be tempted to check out his profiles. Also, delete his phone number if you have to, to stop yourself from calling or texting him.
2. I kept track of how I felt
The pain of unrequited love can be just like physical pain. However, you need to recognize it as a normal thing that has happened to most of us.
It’s important to remember that you’ll feel better again, and no matter how much it hurts, the pain will eventually stop. You’ll feel better again, and you’ll forget about him, but right now, you need to keep track of how you feel.
If you have negative thoughts and think about hurting yourself, this isn’t normal, and you might be suffering from depression so speak to the person you trust most or seek professional help.
3. I allowed myself to feel sad
Once you accept that what you’re going through is normal, it’s time to embrace the sadness. It might sound strange, but getting it all out of my system really helped.
Don’t hide your feelings and pretend that everything’s fine when it isn’t. Allow yourself to feel sad for a while, and you’ll be done with it sooner than later.
Cry if you need to, and express your feelings through art or start exercising to get rid of all that anger.
4. I got rid of everything that reminded me of him
When you clear your head, it’s time to clean the space you live in. All the pictures of the two of you and the small gifts he gave you have to go.
You can cry while you throw them out, but get rid of everything that may remind you of this relationship. Say goodbye to him while you’re removing him from your life.
After you get rid of those things, you’ll have more space for new things that will make you happy. How about getting a plant for the space where his picture used to be? This can help you from always thinking, “He doesn’t love me.”
5. I surrounded myself with people who care about me
Your self-esteem has taken a hit with this, and it’s important that you surround yourself with people who want you well.
Family, friends, and other loved ones are your support network and they will give you the affection and confidence that you need to get back up.
You could use a reminder that you’re worthy of love and don’t ever doubt it.
Let them help you cry your tears out and keep you from calling him again. Talk to them about what you’re going through and feel good about the fact that they have your back.
6. I started saying yes to almost everything
Have you ever watched the movie ‘Yes Man’? Well, this is the perfect time to see it.
It’s time for you to start saying yes, whether your friends ask you out or you get a chance for a promotion at work. This is the perfect time for you to start trying new things that you never had a chance to try before.
Find a new hobby and meet new interesting people. You’ve been sad about someone who isn’t worth it, and you’ll see that your social life and professional life both need your attention.
7. I focused on myself
Now more than ever, you need to love yourself again. It’s not your fault that his man doesn’t love you, don’t convince yourself that it is.
It’s time for some self-love and self-care. Get to know yourself again and figure out what it is that you want.
Look deep inside yourself and dedicate some time to personal development. You will become a better person, and hopefully you won’t make the mistake of choosing the wrong person again.
8. I realized I deserve to be loved
I’m talking about real, mutual love, and you should know that you deserve it.
Now that you have gone through your sad period, you should look back on this relationship. It’s important to look in a non-biased way, and you’ll see that he wasn’t the one for you and that all it was was an experience you can learn from.
You will grow as a person and open yourself up to the idea of true love. It’s on its way, you just need to get yourself back together.
9. I felt proud of myself for leaving him
I decided not to settle for a one-sided relationship, and I felt proud of it. Give yourself some credit for taking control and leaving a man who doesn’t love you.
You have actually known that you deserve better the whole time… and now you finally have a chance to have something better. Your heart is again open for true love, and you’ll soon be able to find it.
Be proud of yourself for surviving this and healing yourself. You have learned some valuable lessons, and now you’re ready for true love when it comes your way, and it surely will.
26 signs I ignored but they showed that he doesn’t love me anymore
Now that you know what to do when you find out he doesn’t love you anymore, let me tell you the signs I ignored. These signs showed he didn’t love me anymore, but I didn’t want to accept it.
Once you see these signs, it’s time to have a serious talk with him and let him know that you’re not going to settle for that and if this is your situation, do this by following the advice I gave earlier.
1. He wasn’t interested in my life
A guy who loves you will be curious to find out all about your life and you for that matter. He would want to know your likes and dislikes, as well as what makes you happy.
Do your Facebook friends know more about who you are and what you want than the man you love? If he isn’t interested in anything you do or say, he wants out of this relationship.
2. He wanted to isolate me from everyone else
Don’t let a man keep you away from your family and friends. If he tries to, it’s abusive and possessive behavior.
He wants you to think that he’s all you need, but that isn’t love. You are just a prize to him, and there’s no respect or trust in your relationship.
3. He stopped giving me compliments
Even if you’re in a long-term relationship, your boyfriend should still give you compliments and flirt with you. This is because in his eyes, you’re the most beautiful and attractive girl in the world.
A man who loves you will see you this way and he will use every chance he gets to make you feel loved and special. When he doesn’t notice how beautiful you look, you don’t matter to him as much as you did before.
4. He would try to hurt me during a fight
When your fights become all about hurting each other, it’s a major red flag. You don’t fight like normal couples do, but try to hurt each other as much as you can.
Maybe you say hurtful things and scream at each other. You just want to hurt each other, and it’s a sign there’s no more love in your relationship.
5. He wasn’t happy
When a man stops acting the way he used to act, there’s something going on. It seems that he isn’t happy, and it doesn’t look like a phase anymore.
He has acted unhappy for a while now, and when he is away from you, his mood improves. However, when he comes back, he’s grumpy again, and this is because he doesn’t care about you like he used to.
6. He wouldn’t do anything when something was bothering me
A man who loves you will do anything to put back a smile on that pretty face. When he doesn’t care that you’re upset, his feelings for you are gone.
Something’s bothering you, and you’re feeling blue, but instead of comforting you, he doesn’t care. It’s a really bad sign, and you deserve much better.
7. He wanted me to change
You should always stay true to yourself, so don’t change just because some man can’t love you for who you are. He needs to love you with all your virtues and flaws, and you deserve nothing less.
Does he think that he’s perfect while you need to change for him? He blames you for all the problems you’ve been having, and you don’t need to take that.
8. He showed no signs of jealousy
All men in love get jealous from time to time, but some of them are just better at hiding it, so if your boyfriend never gets jealous, it’s a very bad sign.
If he has no problem with you going out with your guy friends without him, there’s something wrong. I’m not saying that he should forbid you and be possessive, but a little jealousy is a sign of love.
9. He made me feel incapable and inferior
This is something narcissists do to their victims. They make them feel like they aren’t good enough, and your boyfriend shouldn’t make you feel this way.
You try your best, but nothing you do is ever good enough for him. This shows that he doesn’t care about you anymore, and that’s not what a relationship should look like.
10. He talked about me behind my back
When your boyfriend doesn’t respect your boundaries, he doesn’t respect you. A great example of this is when he talks about you behind your back.
Without boundaries, you can’t have a healthy relationship. It’s a clear violation when he talks about your personal problems with someone else without you knowing.
11. He would constantly criticize me
This is something that can affect your self-esteem in a very negative way. Constructive criticism is one thing, but when it’s constant and cruel, it’s not constructive.
Does he always make you seem inferior in your relationship? This shows that he doesn’t have feelings for you anymore and you’re right to think, “He doesn’t love me.”
12. He needed a lot of alone time
The man who didn’t love me openly asked me for some space while I thought everything was fine.
Sure, in some cases, that’s not a red flag, and it’s understandable that he sometimes needs some alone time. However, if he needs it more than usual, it’s very likely that he just wants out.
Has he left you confused with only vague excuses? It seems he doesn’t love you anymore.
13. He started to be cold and distant
It went so far as to him not wanting to put any effort into our relationship. For instance, he used to text me to tell me he missed me, but then all the texting stopped.
When a man isn’t interested anymore, he’ll be distant and cold and he’ll also stop doing the things he used to do, like texting.
14. He was withdrawn
More often than not, withdrawal shows that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
Did he use to share everything with you about himself and his days? If he has stopped that and suddenly seems silent, something’s up.
The man you love has become quiet because he doesn’t know how to tell you he isn’t interested anymore.
15. He avoided showing affection
What I’m talking about is cuddling, hugging, kissing, and holding hands. All these things should be normal in a relationship.
When a man starts avoiding doing these things, it’s a sign he’s ready to leave. A man who is in love with you won’t be able to keep his hands off of you.
16. Everything I did would annoy him
When we love someone, everything they do seems cute or funny. However, when we can’t stand them anymore, those things start to annoy us.
If your boyfriend is irritated and bothered by everything you do, he doesn’t love you anymore. He is tired of the relationship and wants out.
17. He didn’t even try anymore
When your boyfriend starts taking you for granted, you know you have a problem on your hands. He doesn’t even put any effort into your relationship anymore.
Your boyfriend doesn’t want to do anything for you, and that’s not a sign of love. It shows that the love he felt is gone now.
18. He never talked about the future
A man who doesn’t like talking about your future together doesn’t want you to be a part of his future. It’s just convenient for him to be with you at the moment, but he has no long-term plans with you.
Let me tell you something; when you meet the right man, he’ll enjoy talking about the future with you. You’ll even stay up late coming up with your future children’s names, but this is not a man who wants that.
19. I was at the bottom of his list of priorities
Given a choice between you and something else he likes, your boyfriend would never choose you, which is a sign he doesn’t care about you anymore.
A man who loves you will make you his priority so if he doesn’t do that, it shows that he isn’t interested in you anymore.
20. He would never apologize
If I did something wrong, I would have to say I was sorry and try to work things out and that’s simply because I loved him so much.
He, on the other hand, would never apologize, no matter how much he messed up, which showed he didn’t care about the relationship anymore and wanted out.
21. He would compare me to other women
This might have hurt the most because it seemed like in his eyes, all the other girls were better than me. He would ask me why I was not more like other women, whether he saw them on the street or even dated them.
When your boyfriend compares you to other girls, especially his ex, he doesn’t love you anymore. Don’t take that from him and leave before it gets worse.
22. He stopped doing things for me
My ex used to do little things to make me happy, but he just stopped doing them. If your boyfriend doesn’t try to make you feel loved and special, you should leave him.
He doesn’t try anymore because he has stopped caring. It’s not just that he is indifferent, but he doesn’t even love you anymore.
23. He stopped saying, “I love you”
He didn’t say right from the start that he didn’t love me anymore but at one point, he stopped saying he loved me.
Saying, “I love you,” means a lot, and it’s normal for couples to say it to each other often. When that stops, he just doesn’t want to lie when he isn’t in love anymore.
24. He would often easily get angry
Even the smallest things get him to start screaming and making a fuss about it. He has become more impatient because he doesn’t care about you like he used to.
The reason he’s screaming at you is that he wants out. Let him go and don’t tolerate his angry outbursts.
25. He would lie to me
Where there are lies and secrecy, there’s no love anymore.
Has he started to hide things from you? This shows that he no longer loves or respects you, and you shouldn’t tolerate that.
He doesn’t even want to spend time with you, and he has all sorts of excuses ready when you call him.
26. He didn’t want to communicate
Everyone knows that communication is the key to a successful relationship. A lack of communication shows that he has given up on you and wants out.
Has he cut you off completely? When he no longer wants to communicate, there’s really nothing to talk about because the relationship is already over.
Go back to my advice at the beginning to get over this guy if he doesn’t love you anymore because you deserve to be loved and don’t ever think otherwise!