The whole world should learn a few things about a real connection as well as about being vulnerable. Connecting with people is a biological need and seeking a real connection is not touchy-feely. A lot of people consider succeeding on your own to be the only true success but that is not true, and seeking a real connection doesn’t make you weak. Being vulnerable with someone and empathizing with that person can only make your bond stronger.
You will never get such a connection from social media. It is a real, complex, and deeper connection. It can take time to build, and it can be scary. You will open yourself up to being disliked or judged but if you don’t try it, you will never be able to have a deep connection with someone. After all, when you show your true self to the right person, you will feel in a safe space and they will never hurt your self-esteem or harm your mental health in any way. By talking things out with someone, you will get to see a different point of view, and that will help you work things out.
However, you can’t be vulnerable with just anyone you meet, and it should not be forced. You need to establish and feel trust and you also need to be sure that they are truly empathizing with you because if they aren’t, it is better to find someone else to whom you can open up.
20 signs you have a real connection and what it is
Connecting with people is a sense of being available and open to someone else. It’s feeling drawn to someone. Feeling a connection with someone is feeling understood and listened to, especially when having a personal conversation about something that matters to you. But a human connection is also about taking the time to listen to them and empathizing with them as well.
It is helping them out of unconditional goodwill and receiving and offering gratitude that is sincere. Even when you catch a stranger’s eye and both of you smile, or you spend time laughing with friends, these are all examples of human connection. You know that you are feeling a connection with someone when you are being yourself, and you’re in the moment. Whether you feel bad or good, you feel open. You feel kindness and empathy for the person with whom you have a real connection with. All in all, there is a sense of trust between you two.
And you can have a deep connection with someone whom you are not romantically involved. Maybe you have an emotional connection with your closest friend. However, we are going to focus on romantic relationships when we talk about the signs of an emotional connection. When you are in a long-term relationship or dating someone, it is important that you have a true connection if you are hoping for it to be true love. There is a genuine connection between partners when they are in a healthy relationship. In a successful relationship, your partner shows genuine interest in you and you can be your true self around them.
20 signs of an emotional connection
Maybe you are feeling drawn to someone who is a part of your life but having a genuine connection is more than just that. Whether you have just started dating someone or are in a long-term relationship, there are signs of an emotional connection that you can’t miss. A true connection is a much deeper connection than one you can get from social media and you might have experienced something like it with your closest friend.
However, dating someone with whom you connect on a deeper level is the greatest feeling in the world! Because a deep connection with someone who is an important part of your life leads to a successful relationship. Meaningful relationships are, after all, the only ones that are successful and to find true love, you have to have a genuine interest in that someone. The best emotional connections happen in romantic relationships and there is no doubt about it that those are healthy relationships.
Here are all the signs of an emotional connection:
1. There is never an awkward silence
In those moments when the whole world goes quiet, it won’t be awkward if you have an emotional connection. Not only that the silence won’t make you feel uncomfortable, it will be peaceful instead. When you have a meaningful relationship, you don’t have to fill the silence with small talk; you will almost always have something meaningful to talk about. But when you don’t, you will enjoy the silence together.
2. It’s easy to talk to them
When you have an emotional connection with someone, you won’t have to think before you speak. You two freely communicate by saying the first things that pop into your head. It is easy to talk to someone with whom you have an emotional connection. You might be joking in one moment and then have a philosophical debate the next. When you feel comfortable saying anything, you know that you have found something special.
3. You feel comfortable
A true connection doesn’t get your palms sweaty or your heart racing because it makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. Ever since you first met this person, you have felt like you have known them forever. And you haven’t been nervous; instead, you have had the feeling that you can talk about anything with this person. And you do.
4. They are the same type of weird as you are
Maybe they play with action figures or collect napkins, but the fun part is… you have a collection of your own so you can trade! The thing is, they are weird but they are the same type of weird as you are so their quirks don’t bother you. In fact, you love them even more because of their weirdness! That’s what an emotional connection is all about, after all.
5. You fit together like two pieces
When they put their arm around your shoulder or put their hand in yours while you are watching a movie, it simply fits! You two are like two pieces of the same thing, and you fit together effortlessly. Everything feels natural with the person you have an emotional connection with and that includes every touch. It is like you fit together perfectly in every way.
6. You are sure of your feelings for them
You can fight with a person you have a strong connection with but you will never question your feelings for them. Even when you are angry at them, you can’t stay mad for long. This is because you two understand each other on a deeper level so you can see their point of view. When you have a mental connection with someone, it’s hard to stay mad at them.
7. They inspire you to be better
A real connection will inspire you to grow and become the best version of yourself. When you have something that amazing in your life, it influences all aspects of it. That kind of love in your life boosts your self-esteem and positively affects your mental health so you will suddenly find yourself doing all those things which you could have only dreamed about until now. They provide you with a safe space that allows you to be yourself and once you see yourself, you will see the ways to become even better.
8. You feel good about getting out of your comfort zone
Do you feel like you are brave and can take on the world? This is because of a real connection. It gives you someone who always has your back in life and that makes you feel confident enough to take a leap of greatness. There is nothing you can’t do now that you have someone to watch your back.
9. You face your darkness
You don’t need to hold on to your baggage, because now you have someone who will help you carry it. This is the person who will make you look yourself in the mirror and see yourself for who you are and that will make you fight your inner demons. Because now that everything great about you is out there, the bad stuff will come out too but this is more than fine because now you can finally resolve your problems.
10. You see it in their eyes
Maybe you never knew the difference between when someone looks at you and when someone really sees you but now you do. When they look at you, you feel like the world could end, and you wouldn’t care. There is something about the way they look at you that says it all…
11. You can’t remember life before them
Even if you haven’t known each other for very long, you both feel like you have always been in each other’s lives. It is like you have amnesia when you try to remember a time when they weren’t a part of your life. You might as well have never had a life without them at all.
12. You spend time together
If your connection is deeper than shallow flirting, you will spend time together, just the two of you, so being in a group of people doesn’t count as spending time together. You have to be alone together and have meaningful conversations that will help you to really get to know each other. You progressively spend more time together as you keep up the relationship.
13. You have been through difficult times together
Whether it’s tough times at work, an illness, or a family drama… you two have been through something difficult together. These kinds of bad moments in life are what show us whether a person is really the one or if we are wasting our time. So, if they are supportive of you in the bad times and help you out, then this relationship isn’t superficial.
14. You have deep conversations
The conversations you two have get deep and in a non-forced, effortless way. It’s simply the way you two communicate. These conversations are never awkward, are free-flowing and they involve personal things because you talk about events from your life and your feelings.
15. You can be who you are
When you have a real connection with someone, you feel comfortable being your true self but that doesn’t mean that you need to tell them all your darkest secrets right away. It does, however, mean that you can talk to them about anything and you don’t need to pay too much attention to how you act or what you say.
16. You aren’t together only when it’s convenient
It’s easy to hang out with someone when you have nothing else to do but if you are really busy and still find the time to be with your partner, that’s saying something. So consider the rest of the things that are going on in your partner’s life besides you; if there are a lot of them but they still find time to be with you, then you know that they are really interested in you.
17. You know each other’s friends and families
It’s perfectly normal that you get involved in each other’s lives as your relationship grows so, if you have been dating for a while now, and still haven’t met your partner’s friends and family, that might not be the connection you have been looking for.
18. You enjoy traveling together
Traveling can be stressful but if you two can spend a weekend away together, you might have something special. If you can compromise on what you see and do, you are on a great way to having a successful relationship.
Deep connection with someone
A deep connection with someone is something that often lasts a lifetime. Even if the relationship between you and the person you have connected to is over, the connection still stays there. And all of us are searching for something like that but until we find a connection in a relationship, we satisfy ourself with a moment where our eyes meet the eyes of a stranger and both of us smile.
Let’s not forget the deep connection that you can have with a friend. I have found such connections with the people from my acting class. I feel like I can be who I am in front of them and say whatever’s on my mind but still, nothing can compare to the feeling when you have found such a connection with your romantic partner; it is what makes a relationship meaningful, successful, healthy, and happy.
After all, who wants to be trapped in a relationship where you have to be careful of what you say or how you act? That kind of relationship can never be happy and I should know since I was in such a relationship but ever since I ended it and found true love, I finally felt like myself again. I never knew I missed myself so much until I was finally free to be who I am and now I have a real connection with my partner as well as my friends.
I can’t tell you how much that has made me a better and more successful person. It enriches your life and makes it worth living. You don’t feel alone anymore and you know that there’s someone watching your back at all times, so you feel brave enough to take on the world and you have the strength and the motivation to make all your dreams come true. I did, so why can’t you?
Don’t settle for anything less than the real thing. Even if you have to wait for it, be patient because it will be worth it and I promise you that. But first, you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable because only by letting yourself be vulnerable in front of someone will you be able to achieve a true connection with that person. And that means having to take a risk because you don’t know whether that person is the kind who will appreciate your vulnerability… or the kind who will use it against you. But once you find that someone in front of you with whom you can be yourself and express your softer side, it will all be worth it.
When you think about it… there is no point in having a relationship with someone if there isn’t a deep connection between you two; a connection is what creates a relationship after all. You have to take the time to get to know the other person and get them to open up. Trust is something that is built over time and you have to work on it so don’t be judgmental and let your partner freely express themselves and their feelings. After all, you wouldn’t want them to be judgmental of you when you are doing the same.
You need to express fondness and admiration to achieve a connection. Show the person you care about how much they really mean to you and never take them for granted. You will be rewarded with the greatest thing there is – true love. Express gratitude because it will increase the respect in the relationship. Don’t avoid conflict and embrace it instead because the way you manage conflict is actually more important than the thing you are fighting about. Being in a relationship takes vulnerability, courage and a willingness to listen and communicate.
So, now that you know what a real connection is, it’s time to look at what isn’t a connection at all. Are you always trying to connect with other people by being funny, smart, or interesting? Maybe you are even waiting for their reaction to know what you should do next. That is not connecting. You actually just have the need to be accepted, and you are not being who you are. In addition, you are manipulating others to get their attention.
Is your connection based around talking about others or a shared dislike of someone? That counts as having something in common, but it doesn’t count as connecting. Do you think that connection is easy for you since it means you are always having a laugh? A lot of people actually hide themselves behind humor and there can’t be a connection if you aren’t the real you. Just because you had a fun night out doesn’t mean that you have connected with someone. Maybe the only things that you actually share are that you like dancing and drinking.
Not even spending years of your life with someone counts as being connected because if you aren’t able to be yourself around that person and you don’t trust each other, you are only passing the time together. Having an emotional connection with the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with is the best thing you can do for your future because it will make your life a heaven on earth, and you will have someone you can trust by your side at all times.
So, if you have found that special someone, hold on to them and don’t let go. But if you are yet to find them, don’t settle for anything less than the real thing. You deserve to have love and happiness in your life so be patient and look out for the signs that you have an emotional connection with someone.