Loving Somebody Who Doesn’t Love Themselves

Loving Somebody Who Doesn’t Love Themselves

You can love someone with all your heart, but you can’t teach them to love themselves. No matter how much you love them, they will never be able to see themselves with your eyes and realize how amazing they are. Or so you think.

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    Sometimes, loving someone with all their virtues and flaws is not enough for that person to see that they should love themselves as well. When a person doesn’t love themselves, you can see it in the choices they make and the beliefs they have.

    The only person who can make themselves love themselves is them, and that is what your loved one needs to realize before you waste your energy on trying to get them to love themselves.

    There are people who are always ready to settle for less and not because they are modest but because they see themselves as less worthy. Sometimes you can even try to surprise them by doing something big for them, and they will feel uncomfortable because they don’t think that they are worthy of that.

    But in some cases, a person you love will realize that they need to love themselves, and your love will motivate them to become better and grow as a person. In the end, they might really learn to love themselves for who they are.

    My husband was surprised by how uncomfortable it made me feel when he would compliment me and do nice things for me when we first started dating. He was an amazing man who treated me like a princess, and I didn’t know how to react to that because I never thought I deserved something amazing like that. But he showered me with love and showed me that I should love myself. And now I do.

    So it is possible to get someone to love themselves if you constantly shower them with love and put all your energy into making them see that they are capable of great things and that they deserve only the best. But it isn’t easy, and it takes a lot of time and energy.

    It is hard to love someone who doesn’t love themselves because people who don’t love themselves can become overly dependent on and a burden to you, but if you are willing to take that chance, it will be worth it once they see themselves the way you see them.

    It can be frustrating to be with someone who rejects your help, but you have to be patient and realize that it takes time to change someone’s opinion of themselves.

    Since you are in this situation, you are probably a loving type of person who likes to help others, but are you really willing to go through all that trouble to get someone to love themselves?

    If you are not, don’t waste their time and hurt them even more. But if you are, trust me, they will be grateful to you for the rest of their life, for showing them that they deserve more out of life.

    And for them to truly love you the way you love them, they have to learn how to love themselves first.

    The first thing you need to do is accept them for who they are and show them that you love who they are. You don’t want to try to change them. Be the wind beneath their wings instead and always compliment them to boost their self-esteem.

    The next step you need to take is perseverance because you need to keep being their support and keep showering them with love. They need to know that you aren’t going anywhere, and you should continuously compliment them, whether it’s about their looks, their personality, or anything else.

    And the most important thing you need to do is have patience. It takes time for a person to start loving themselves, and it’s not an easy task. But once they finally learn how to love themselves, you will see how they will change and become even more amazing!
    But at first, try to really listen to them and show them that you care, because maybe even that will start them thinking that they are worthy of your love. You have to convince them that they are worthy of attention by giving them all of yours.

    And it is crucial that you have a trusting relationship with this person so they will feel comfortable enough to share with you their thoughts and feelings. Never betray their trust by telling others something they told you that is a secret of theirs. Keep what they tell you to yourself and never betray their trust.

    Something else you could try is keeping your partner occupied, to get their mind away from all their negative thoughts, and it will only strengthen your bond. Do something different every day and get them to find something they are good at, to do as a hobby.

    My husband encouraged me to go to acting classes like I always wanted, and it really got me to become more confident and express myself, while at the same time meeting new people. So something like that would be a great idea for your loved one!

    You have to know that sometimes you will feel like you have wasted your time and as though your efforts have been wasted, but all you really need to do is be patient and persistent with your loved one because as hard as it might be to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t love themselves, it’s even harder to learn to love yourself after all that time.

    But if you just keep up the good work, you will live to see the day when it will all pay off, and your loved one will change and become an even better person once they start loving themselves and their confidence grows.

    And as I said before, they will be forever grateful to you for helping them see themselves as worthy of love, and they will never forget what you did. And you will be there by their side to see how they succeed in everything they do now that they finally love themselves.

    Loving Somebody Who Doesn’t Love Themselves

    About the author

    Kirsten Blackwood

    A mental health writer and advocate. Currently I write about depression. My work has always been centered around health as I previously worked at a variety of healthcare-focused agencies. I wanted to help people who were struggling with an illness or disability, but often times didn’t feel the work I was doing was providing the right voice to the people I was trying to help. Here, I can connect to you in your journey by encouraging you to share the good, the bad, and moments in-between.

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