Falling in love sounds easy, but your crush could be so afraid of getting hurt that she is hiding her feelings while actually wanting to be with you. This is why you should look for the signs she loves you but is scared.
Women can be complicated and mysterious, as well as their feelings. If you are thinking “she likes me but is scared of a relationship”, let me tell you as a girl that there is a strong possibility you are actually right about that.
Most girls actually dream about being in a loving relationship because which person doesn’t look for love? But what is then stopping her from admitting it?
There are many reasons why a girl shows signs she loves you but is scared of getting involved. If she hasn’t been in a relationship for a while, she might be afraid of it.
It is quite possible that she has been hurt in the past, and this is causing her to have issues with trusting you. You can read more about the fear of trusting people in another article we prepared for you, but now let’s focus on the signs she secretly likes you.
If you were the one with whom she had the bad past experience, you will notice signs she wants you back but is scared that you are going to hurt her again.
What you can do about it is help her feel safe and show her that you can solve that problem together. You need to be patient and show her love.
Remember that saying the L-word isn’t easy for some people and it can be intimidating. But love is, in fact, something that is built over time, as well as trust, so you need to take things slow and let her become braver about expressing her feelings and acting upon them.
Women rarely say directly what they mean. Just because she hasn’t told you that she loves you doesn’t mean that she doesn’t love you. Love can be a scary thing for some people, and they need to take their time to accept that they are in love and realize that that is not going to bring them pain but joy and happiness.
You might have to convince her about that when the time comes, but for now, just be on the lookout for the signs she loves you to make sure that the only thing that’s stopping you two from being happily in love is her fear of getting hurt.
Here are the signs she loves you but is scared:
1. She talks to you all the time
If you have noticed that she is open and comfortable when talking to you, even though she might be shyer towards others, this is one of the signs she secretly likes you. She likes talking to you, and always quickly responds to your messages.
2. She always has a smile on her face
No, not always, but always when she is around you. She is simply happy to see you and enjoys your company. When a person likes someone, they will find it hard to say their name without smiling.
She is probably smiling every time she thinks about you. And if you are smiling right now because you are thinking of her, you should show her that you care and encourage her to admit her feelings.
3. She likes to talk about you
Whether she is telling you what she likes about you or talking about you to her friends, she enjoys talking about you as well as talking to you.
When a girl likes a guy, he will instantly become her favorite topic to talk about. Those are the clear signs she’s into you but afraid you might hurt her in the end.
4. She likes to share her music with you
When it comes to her interest in music and other types of entertainment like movies, she likes to share with you what she likes.
Sometimes there will be even a secret message for you in a song she tells you to listen to or a movie she wants you to see. In any case, she really relates to that, and it might have something to do with you.
5. She flirts when she writes
Maybe she can’t openly flirt with you, but when you read her texts, or you chat on Facebook, you are reading between the lines and noticing she is flirting with you.
This is because it is much easier to be open when you are texting, and there are a lot of emojis that can help you send a secret message to the person you are writing to. This flirting in messages might be signs she’s playing hard to get and wants you to take the first step.
6. She is always around you
Somehow, wherever you are, she’s right there next to you. She will always find a way to be near you if she loves you, and these constant dates are signs she’s falling in love with you because they are in fact dates, you two just haven’t admitted it yet.
7. She plays eye contact games
At one point, she will stare deeply in your eyes and seem like she is expecting you to kiss her, while at the other moment, she will look away and pretend nothing has happened.
Eye contact games are as old as dating, and if she is avoiding talking about it, those are the signs she loves you but is scared about what will happen when you find out about it.
8. She makes physical contact often
A woman who likes a man will try to establish a physical contact by touching him whenever she gets the chance. If she does things like cleaning dandruff off your shoulders or moving her hand closer to yours so they could touch, these are the signs she loves being intimate with you and wants to be more intimate.
Still, you should consider the signs she’s scared of getting hurt before taking it further.
9. She likes for you to walk her home
Actually, she will always agree on taking a walk with you anywhere. This is because she wants to be alone with you and have a romantic atmosphere – she is probably even waiting for you to kiss her.
But before doing anything that would cause problems, notice all the signs she’s scared of getting hurt to make sure and try talking to her about the reasons for her fears.
10. She gets personal
She is very open to you and likes to talk to you about personal things. This is a great opportunity to talk to her about her fears and get her to open up.
If you are her ex, she might be sending you signs she wants you back but is scared that you are going to hurt her again. Try your best to prove to her that you are a better man.
11. She likes to tease you
If she likes joking around and teasing you, she is, in fact, trying to get a reaction from you, because she is subconsciously telling you that she wants you to love her back.
12. She is dropping hints
No matter how much she fights it, she is still human and yearns for love and affection. Maybe she is just shy and too scared to admit it, but she will probably be dropping hints that she cares for you and wants to have a relationship with you.
13. She thinks you’re funny
The oldest sign of a woman being into you is her laughing at your jokes. If you admit that they are not even that funny, then it must be the person that’s telling them what makes her light up that much.
14. She can’t decide
When a girl doesn’t want to be with someone, she will make it clear by saying “No”. But if she’s hot and cold and hasn’t made things clear yet, those are the signs she loves you but is scared of taking the leap of faith and starting a relationship.
15. She is jealous
The most obvious of the signs she loves you but is scared to admit it is that she gets jealous when you are around other girls.
16. She is not seeing anyone
She is not starting a relationship with you, but she is not starting it with anyone else either. She is too confused and hasn’t yet decided what is she going to do about her feelings for you.
17. She is open about her past
Maybe she is trying to warn you about her fears by sharing with you her bad past experiences. She just doesn’t want to go through that again with you, and you have to prove to her that you are different.
18. She always has time for you
All of us make time for the people that matter to us. If she always has time for you, it’s clear she cares about spending her time with the person that means a lot to her.
She is always ready when you invite her to hang out, and she will try to prolong that time together as much as she can.
19. She likes to take care of you
If she prioritizes your happiness and well-being and likes to take care of you, even by sacrificing herself, it is clear how much you mean to her. She wants you to rely on her and know that she’ll be there for you in sickness and in health.
20. She copies you
If you two are starting to look alike and act the same because she is starting to share all your interests and even body language and habits, you are clearly a couple but haven’t said it out loud yet.
Women who are in love with a guy will try to fill the hole when they miss him by acting the way he does. This is most of the time subconsciously.
21. There is a rumor
By now there is probably a rumor that she likes you and wants to be with you because it has started to look obvious to everyone around you. She has probably continuously been talking about you to her friends.
But why hasn’t she said it to you herself? She is scared of what will happen and perhaps fears rejection as well.
22. Her pupils get dilated
It is a scientific fact that when we are looking at someone we are in love with our pupils become dilated. This won’t be so hard to notice since she is staring at you anyway. Gently smile at her when you see her being lost in your eyes.
23. She plays with her hair
Another fact is that women don’t even notice that they are playing with their hair when they are around a guy they like. However, this might not be so easy to spot because she probably knows that you will notice it, so she avoids doing it.
But sometimes she won’t pay attention, and her subconscious will make her stare at you and play with hair while imagining what it would be like if you two were in a relationship.
24. She is trying to sit next to you
If she is trying to get close to you any way she can, and always tries to sit next to you when you are in a group of people, it is a clear sign she wants to be with you.
Later on, you might even discover that your friends have been purposely allowing her to do so by avoiding sitting next to you.
25. She gives you compliments
She is flattering you by complimenting you, maybe even more than you deserve.
She wants to make you happy and make you feel good when you’re around her, and also, she might genuinely mean all the things she says, because she is in love with you, and to her, you are the amazing man she says you are.