Relationships Are Hard, But Loving Someone Should Be Easy
Relationships are not easy.
There are going to be bad days. There are going to be misunderstandings. There are going to be fights. There are going to be nasty looks and rolled eyes and I’m fines.
If you want your relationship to last, then you cannot run away at the first sign of trouble. You cannot give up on your person because they rubbed you the wrong way once or twice. You have to make compromises. You have to say sorry. You have to accept apologies. You have to communicate. You have to care.
Committed relationships need constant effort. They need a shitton of work.
Even if you two are perfect for each other, there are still going to be arguments. But when you love someone, you will pull a blanket over them after they fall asleep on the couch even if they just finished screaming at you. You will leave a glass of water and aspirin out for them after a night of drinking even if they said some horrible things while drunk.
Even when you are pissed at them, you will not want to see them cry. Even when you are planning on giving them the silent treatment, you will have the temptation to text them. Even when you are supposed to be annoyed with them, they will find ways to make you laugh aloud.
When you love someone, you never stay mad for too long. Working out your problems seems like the only option. The alternative would mean losing them, maybe now or maybe sometime down the line, and that is the last thing you want to happen. You appreciate your person. You value your person. That is why you always make up with your person.
There are going to be times when you want nothing to do with them, when you wish they would leave you alone, when you would rather be anywhere except in the same room as them. But you will never stop loving them. You will never forget why you are with them. You will never doubt the strength of your feelings.
Relationships are hard — but loving your person should be easy. It should come naturally to you. It should be as instinctive as breathing.
You should be able to list a million reasons why you love your person off the top of your head. You should be able to feel yourself relaxing the moment they walk into the room. You should be able to say I am the luckiest person in the world and mean every word.
Loving them should be easy. You should feel comfortable kissing them on the lips. You should feel comfortable talking to them about your past. You should be comfortable sharing good news with them, sharing bad news with them, and sharing silence with them. When they are around, you should feel like you are in exactly the right place.
You should never assume relationships are easy — but loving your person should be the easiest thing in the world.