7 Secrets About Sex That No One Ever Teaches You
1. The whole friends with benefits setup is a perfectly plausible system of social interaction. It’s not like how they always make it out to be in those romantic comedies or television shows. Just because you and a friend choose to sleep with each other occasionally doesn’t automatically mean that you are going to eventually develop romantic feelings for one another. Sometimes, sex is just what it is sex. And there’s nothing more to it than that if you don’t want it.
There’s no need to overreact with the whole friends with benefits situation at all. If the both of you are consensual about it and you are both honest with each other about how your relationship is going to be purely physical, then you shouldn’t have anything to worry about. Don’t let the media tell you how you should go about having a fun sex life as long as everything is consensual, no one should get to take that fun away from you.
3. The emotional intensity that comes with sex may overpower you at times and that’s okay. You will sometimes get the urge to just cry. Your tears will come rolling out of your eyes and you won’t be able to explain it. That’s fine. That’s just how sex can affect people sometimes especially people who are incredibly in touch with their own feelings. Whether or not it’s going to weird out your partner is another story entirely.
4. There will be times wherein you have sex with a person who is going to leave a very negative impression on you and that’s normal. A lot of times, you won’t even be able to explain why your feelings towards this sexual experience are so negative. Just know that the only way to get rid of that negative weight that is bearing down on you is to sleep with another person.
6. There are people who want to have sex with you more than you would even probably expect. It’s just that sometimes, these necessarily aren’t people who you want to have sex with. Or maybe they’re people who just aren’t so forward about their sexual desires. Maybe it’s worth it if you start taking a leap of faith and making the first move once in a while.