Stop making a fool out of yourself. Stop forcing something that isn’t there. Stop trying to make something out of nothing. He doesn’t love you. And the fact that you’re trying so hard to convince yourself otherwise is proof that he doesn’t love you. Because if a man were truly in love with you, you wouldn’t have to put so much effort into convincing yourself of it. He would be the one to make sure that you know just how badly he’s fallen for you. You have to stop making excuses for this person. You have to stop defending him for his indefensible treatment towards you. A man who really loves you wouldn’t be feeding on your insecurities.
A man who truly loves you wouldn’t be manipulating and bullying you into the state of your current condition. A man who truly loves you wouldn’t need to be defended all of the time. If you want to know the real truth, it’s this: if he really did love you – he would tell you. And the very fact that he hasn’t told you anything is proof that he feels nothing for you. And you need to stop convincing yourself that the opposite is true. You need to stop clinging to false hopes. You need to let go of your blind optimism. A man who truly loves you wouldn’t be allowing you to wallow in your own self-pity. A man who truly loves you wouldn’t be giving you anxiety attacks.
A man who truly loves you would do whatever he can to get rid of all uncertainty and fear in your life. He would do whatever he can to minimize all of your insecurities. He wouldn’t be giving you scraps and tidbits of love; he would be giving you a mountain of it. If a man were truly in love with you, you wouldn’t even have to question it. You would never be put in a position to doubt it. You know that you keep doing this to yourself. You are just essentially stunting your own growth with your refusal to learn. You are just doing yourself a disservice by letting him play you like this. You are putting too much power in his hands.
You are giving him so many chances to hurt you. And how many times do you have to be disappointed before you get the picture? He doesn’t love you the way that you want him to. He doesn’t love you the way that you deserve to be loved. You keep on wallowing in your own sadness. It’s like you’re suspended in your own wormhole of misery. You don’t understand why he’s treating you so terribly; but reality is staring you right in the face and you’re just choosing to ignore it. You’re just too chicken to confront the truth. You invent fictional situations and scenarios in your head just to convince yourself that the truth isn’t what it seems to be.
But deep down inside, you know what’s really happening. Deep down inside, you know that you’re just lying to yourself. Deep down inside, you know that he doesn’t love you. You are so desperate and so sad. You wonder why he doesn’t seem to put as much effort into the relationship as you. You start to wonder why you give him so much of your time even when he barely gives you any of his. You wonder why he couldn’t possibly make any compromises for you even when you sacrifice so much for him. You wonder why he doesn’t work on whatever connection you have as a couple even though you’re fighting like hell to keep that flame alive.
Well, you can stop your wondering. You can stop all of that thinking that you’re doing. The answer is simple. He doesn’t love you – and he’s never going to love you. And you’re just going to have to learn to accept that right now. Yes, you have good intentions – the best intentions. But you have to know that even the best intentions aren’t going to be enough. You can’t love him to the point wherein you also force him to love you in return. Love is something that can never be forced. Love is not something that you can conjure out of sheer will. Love is not something that you can impose or manipulate. Love is not something that you can manifest out of nothing.
When love is present, you really feel it. You won’t have to go looking for it. When love is there and it’s real; it’s going to have a presence that just demands to be felt. When love is real, you won’t ever have to question its presence. It’s going to be there – and it will be the best thing you will ever have experienced in your life.