When two people love each other, it is supposed to be that simple. Nothing should wreck their relationship or connection they have. There should not be toxicity or unhealthy arguing, and everything they struggle with, they should discuss and fix as soon as possible. If one partner has a need to manipulate another, it is unhealthy and rarely reparable. If you decide to commit to your partner, there are some, let’s say, tasks and duties. To gain the happiness in the relationship means that you need to trust your partner, just as with being honest to them. It also means that you need to respect him or her so you can expect them to respect you, too.
The most important thing is to never agree to stay in a relationship based on manipulation. Always have in mind that you agreed to be in a happy and healthy relationship. You can know and feel when your partner loves you and when your relationship is something that you are happy to have. Surly, your partner would never intentionally do anything to hurt you. I am talking about cheating or abusive behavior. You would never be his or her toy and they would not play games with you. Even if it comes to these situations, you should never let anyone behave this way. You should not tolerate anyone’s shit.
However, if you find yourself stuck with this partner and if it turns out that you actually know almost nothing about him, try to save yourself as soon as possible. The intentions of your partner are hidden. If you have already fallen in love with this partner, then it is easier for him to convince you that everything is perfectly normal in your relationship. My advice is to think wisely and see if your partner is a manipulative jerk or he is nearest to that. You can easily get stuck with this man, especially if you don’t have enough self-respect and if you need to hear from other people about the toxicity that you are in. And what makes your man even more successful is the fact that you are blind. So, this is the way you become a victim.
The better you are to people, the less they treat you honestly. You can easily trust people around you, but most of them will actually use that in a bad way. It is fine to be kind, but you need to make a distinction between the kindness and letting someone manipulate you. Those kinds of people like you are the easiest target for manipulation. The fact that you are kind and nice shows your manipulative partner that you are also weak.
So, the most important thing is to never let anyone destroy your self-esteem. You are smart enough to recognize manipulation in a relationship. When you are ready to get into a relationship, make sure that you also know your partner to the point that you are sure to open yourself to him. Be smart and aware of the things in a relationship. After all, that is your relationship. With these signs, you may protect yourself from manipulative partners.
THEY ARE CHARMING IN THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
Your partner will make sure that you gained the trust at the beginning. The least he can do is to be nice and charming. You will fall in love faster, so he could be able to start his manipulation.
HE WILL LIE TO YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE.
Then it comes to deceiving you. Even when there is no need for lies, he will try to wreck the truth in order to distract you even more.
HE ERODES THOSE PROBLEMS YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT.
At first you are trying to talk, but soon enough you find yourself wondering if anything that you say actually matters. His intention is to make you believe so.
HE WILL MAKE YOU SUSPICIOUS ABOUT YOUR THOUGHTS AND CREEDS.
In order to make you hurtful without the wish to protect yourself, he will make your thoughts and creeds pointless. The saddest thing is that you will actually let him do that.
HE USES YOUR WORDS AGAINST YOU.
This one he does to confuse you once again. The easiest way to make you not know what you actually want from him is to assure you that it is always your fault for everything bad that happens.
HE WILL MAKE YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE OVERLY SENSITIVE.
No matter what problem are you two facing, somehow it is not a big deal for him. And he will make you think the same.
HE BLAMES YOU FOR EVERY PROBLEM IN A RELATIONSHIP.
This is the time when he makes sure that you think he is a victim. In this case you are a manipulative person, and if you can just be clever enough to actually turn this into your well-being, you would win.
HE GETS SO MAD WHEN YOU ARE ARGUING.
It may not be up to you, but every time you argue, he gets kind of aggressive. This is because he wants to get rid of guilt, so being aggressive is the easiest way to deal with the issue he is blamed for.
HE DOESN’T LIKE WHEN YOU ARE BOTHERING HIM.
So when this happens, he will show you his extremely scary face. He will show his uncontrolled anger or frustration.
HE IS ALWAYS THE MAIN CHARACTER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
This is very easy, because you can’t spot the toxicity of your relationship. You simply don’t have the time to deal with it. So you are not aware that you are unhappy and that you are dealing with a manipulative partner.