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20 Things About Being A Mom For The First Time

being a mom for the first time
Written by Nela Baricevic

There are 20 things you should keep in mind if you are about to become a mom for the first time.

You may not love your child as soon as the two of you meet each other, and that is totally normal. Sometimes it just takes time, even when we talk about the relationship between mom and child. Don’t worry, there is nothing wrong with you.

It is normal to be scared of leaving the hospital. You just went through labor and you just met your child for the first time, take your time. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Babies cry a lot because it is the only way they can communicate with rest of the world. There’s nothing wrong if you find it hard when the baby cries a lot. It is okay to feel nervous, to be impatient, to desperately want your baby to fall asleep so you can relax.

Don’t worry. Your baby isn’t hungry. She will let you know if she’s getting enough food. You will know when it’s time to feed her again.

Changing diapers is not such a big deal as it may seem. At the end, this is one of the easiest things you will get through with your baby. It is simple and can be really funny at times… Believe me, you’ll see.

On the other side, breastfeeding can be really hard. Don’t forget you can always ask for some extra help.

Get out with a baby as much as you can. Don’t spend your time alone with your baby at home. Use every sunny day to get out and take a walk.

Experience things. Don’t take pictures all the time. Don’t live for pictures, instead, live for the moments, for the memories.

Hearing your baby say “mama” for the first time will touch your soul deeply. Just wait for it. At that moment, you’ll know that all of it is worth it.

Don’t compare your baby with others. Your baby is unique, so there really isn’t any need for comparing.

Nothing goes as you planned and that’s completely normal. Don’t stick so hard on the plans you made before actually having a baby. Plans are here so you can break them.

Relax and enjoy your nap time. You’ll need every ounce of strength.

Listen to your heart, or to say, your intuition. You’ll change a lot but your intuition will stay still, and you’ll know exactly what you need to do. Just listen to it.

Get in contact with other women who are in the same position as you are. It’s good to know that you are not the only one who’s going through this.

Feel free to ask for help. Don’t think you have to work out everything on your own. Ask for help and I’m sure you’ll get it.

Don’t force yourself to be the perfect mother. You are not a perfect person, nobody is. So how could you possibly be the perfect mother? Don’t get yourself in a situation in which you are going to disappoint yourself.

Appreciate and love your body. Your body is for sure different than before you had your baby. Learn to love it again and appreciate it because it gave you an opportunity to become a mother.

Please, don’t forget your partner. He’s the one who was standing by your side when you needed it the most, right? He’s the one who is the father of your child, but even before that – your partner for life. Don’t ever get yourself in a situation in which you forget it.

The relationship between you and your partner will go through a huge change. Again, this is something that is normal. Don’t worry. As your family is expanding, you’ll need to make a stronger connection with your partner, but take this as a beautiful and beloved challenge.

Just be yourself and it will be fine because there is not a secret to being a good parent. Listen to your heart, it will tell you exactly what you need to do. It is okay to feel worried because it just means you care. All mothers, all parents, do care and that is completely fine.

Spread the love. Enjoy life! Enjoy your little star!


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Nela Baricevic