Many people have some issues when it comes to loving themselves. They don’t have any trouble when they are catching the fancy of others. But somehow when they need to love themselves, they have problems. They don’t know how, although it is not that difficult. As in everything in life, you need to put in some effort. You need to dedicate yourself and you have to be patient. What I want to say is that you can spend too much time with yourself, yet you wouldn’t find a way to love and value yourself.
You can definitely try to close yourself in a room and wait for it to happen. Self-love doesn’t come that way. Loving yourself has nothing to do with spending time alone. You can do many things alone like eating or walking or even going to concerts, yet you may not love yourself.
However, if someone calls you to a great party, the best sign of loving yourself is not to accept the invitation. If you don’t feel like that party would cheer you up, then don’t go to it. Spend that time on your own and do things which make you truly happy. Don’t waste your energy if you have a little bit of it.
When you decide to spend the time alone, try to heal, try to use it as a charger of your wasted energy. Being alone can be so good when you know the difference between being alone and being lonely. Those two have completely different meanings. You should never let yourself separate from other people thinking that that would be good for you.
Loving yourself many times includes a simple “yes” as an answer. Even if it is not pleasant or if you don’t like it, you still should say yes sometimes.
Every person needs a friend or family member or someone to share both sadness and happiness with. Also, there are things that you are not able to do on your own, so if you love yourself, you should definitely call someone to help you. If you need to have a conversation with someone, don’t think that you can figure it all out on your own. No man can handle everything alone. You need to face the fact that no one can be fine and feel happy all the time. It is perfectly fine to feel low some days. You just know when it is time to call someone and talk to them and when it is time to spend some time on your own.
Loving yourself also means to accept those things you are not sure at first whether you will be comfortable doing them. But it is fine to call that guy or girl out, just because you like them. It is fine to go to the party in order to have a good time, even if you don’t know all those people. You need to do something without thinking about consequences because if you don’t do that, later you’ll regret it.
Accept what life is offering to you, because this life is only one. If you make a mistake, don’t fall. Don’t lose your self-confidence just because you made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. So make sure that you have taken every single chance that is in front of you. What if you are not perfect? Well, no one is. But learn how to love yourself that way. Learn to live and love your imperfections.
If you are nervous because of the date you agreed to go to, then you love yourself. It is the thing that you decided to do for yourself. If you are shaking, that is the best sign. You decided to do something you fear, but you know it will make you happy and it is going to end very well.
Loving yourself means so much more than just spending time alone. It’s like solving a puzzle. It is like hiking with no end. But the thing is, no matter how much time you need, or if you make a mistake, it is still fine. You are happy with your imperfections. You are also happy with your good side.
To love yourself is to let other people love you. It is about forgiving and being there for your friends, family, or partner, just as they are there for you. Loving yourself is allowing yourself to be filled with love.