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11 Signs He Secretly Misses You

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Written by Deborah Carbone

When a man misses you, he won’t always say the words, “I miss you.” Still, you will be able to see signs he misses you. Your love life might have gotten complicated because of a long-distance relationship or maybe you are wondering if your ex misses you. Your love life isn’t the same without him near you but resist the urge to chase him. Make a man chase you instead as well as show his love for you. If that man is your ex-boyfriend, respect the no contact rule, and he will chase you afterward.

When a guy misses you, he will look at old photos and remember his love for you and he might start stalking your social media accounts but there are more subtle signs a guy misses you. He could be scrolling through memes and sending you those that he thinks you would find funny. All of the memes that made him think of you are his way of saying, “I love you, and I miss you.” He will want to keep the conversation going and spend all his free time with you and don’t be surprised by drunk texts as well. These are some of the signs he misses you. 

So, if you are wondering how to know if he misses you, this article is for you. I will tell you about all the signs he misses you without saying it, so you don’t have to wait for those words, “I miss you.” His body language will say those words for him. It may be that your best friends tell you that he has been asking about you. If he is your ex-boyfriend, you will get to find out all the signs he misses you after breaking up.

How to know if he misses you after you break up? Some of the signs he misses you and wants you back are all those late-night phone calls and drunk texts. He is probably also looking at your old pictures together on social media. Scrolling through old photos makes a man miss those happy times and that’s exactly why the no contact rule exists. Your ex misses you when he isn’t able to talk to you. The signs he misses you after you break up are the same as the signs he misses you when you are in a long-distance relationship.

After all, all he really wishes is to spend time with you. Even the little things he does could be signs he misses you and wants you back in his arms… regardless of the reasons why you’re not there already. So be sure to read all the signs he misses you without saying so, and you will find out how to know if he does. There will be obvious signs, but some of them will be more subtle, so keep your eyes open.

Signs he misses you

When your guy is missing you, you will know. It will show in the way he behaves and talks to you so make sure that you read all the signs he misses you and find out the truth. If your man does all the things I am going to mention, you shouldn’t have any doubt in your mind. He really does miss you because he loves you very much.

1. His main goal is to keep talking to you

When he is texting you, if you can’t tell if it is one of the signs he misses you or he needs something, perform a test. Don’t respond to his text messages right away. Instead, wait for a while to see if he will text you again. If your boyfriend misses you, he will do anything he can to keep the conversation going. So, naturally, you will get another text from him asking why you aren’t answering. The same goes for phone calls. If he calls you, don’t answer. Wait to see if he will call again. If he doesn’t miss you, he won’t call again but one of the signs he misses you badly is when he does or when he sends you text messages just to keep talking to you.

If your ex misses you, he will try to contact you even during the no contact period. After the no contact period, you can start texting again. Still, apply the same test I mentioned above to find out if his texts are sure signs he wants to keep talking to you. You know yourself how much you wish to talk for hours with someone who you genuinely miss; all you wish is for the conversation to continue and last for as long as possible. The same goes for when your boyfriend misses you. He will want to enjoy the sound of your voice for as long as he can. He will use his social media accounts to contact you as well; after all, that is where he has seen how you have been doing without him.

2. He talks about you all the time

His best friends are probably sick of hearing about you. A very clear sign a guy misses you is when he talks about you all the time to everyone he knows. When I was with my ex, we would break up all the time, and I would talk to my best friends about him every time. This is because when you love someone, they are constantly on your mind and that’s especially true when they are not around. If you aren’t able to tell your loved one to their face the words, “I love you,” you will want to tell everyone else about it. We somehow feel that if we talk about the person, it will seem as if they are there with us. So, when a guy misses you, he will talk about you all the time to everyone he knows.

That is why you should check with the people who know him if he has been talking about you. If he has bored them to death with all the little things he misses about you, it’s a sure sign. The signs that he misses you badly are sometimes that clear, but they aren’t all obvious so keep reading to find out if your man misses you. Keep an eye on his body language when you finally see each other as well, as our body can give up secrets our mouth would never say.

3. He likes to reminisce about you two together

When a man misses you, he will get lost in memories by looking at your old pictures together or he will be listening to your song or watching a movie you two watched together. Still, he might not tell you about it, so how could you know? Check your social media for any new likes on old posts, as well as his profiles for posts about you. Don’t be surprised if you find that he posted your song with some nostalgic comment. Another way to find out is to ask his friends about it but a clear sign is when he talks about it to you directly. He might start a conversation with sentences such as, “Do you remember the time when…” or, “How great was it when we…” or, “Remember when we would…”

Being away from you might have gotten your boyfriend stuck in the past. He prefers to live in a time when you would spend all your free time by his side. Spending time with you was something he took for granted but now all he wants is to have an opportunity to be with you. The signs he misses you when you’re not around are in all those little stories about your past that he likes to tell. He is hoping to create new memories with you as well, so a guy like this is a keeper. Just don’t be surprised if he mentions the old days every time you talk.

4. He is all over your social media

This guy desperately wants to be a part of your life. He wants to know all about your day and what you have been up to and that is why he will become your most faithful follower on social media. Since he is spending so much time checking out your profiles, you’ll get a lot of notifications from him. All those likes and comments are actually signs he misses you when you’re not around; that is why he is looking at your profiles in the first place, he wants to keep up with the current events in your life. But that’s not all, because he also likes looking at your pictures. He misses seeing your pretty smile, so he will like every picture where he sees it. Stalking your profile might sound creepy, but it’s actually a very good sign.

A guy who isn’t interested in you will never spend so much time on your profiles. By liking and commenting, he gets the feeling that you two are interacting and as I said before, his main goal is to keep communicating with you. This way, he doesn’t even need you to respond. It’s enough for him that you know that he is there watching you and caring about what you do… even when you are far away from him, and he can’t be there to do it with you. This is one of the clear signs he misses you when you’re not around.

5. He wants you to send him pics

As soon as I wrote this, it sounded dirty in my mind. Still, it doesn’t have to be that way. He might just want you to send him pictures so he could see how you look right now and the smile on your face. The truth is, he misses seeing your beautiful face. Pictures are the easiest way for him to get to see you when he can’t do it in person. All the same, even if he actually wants nudes, I would have to say that it’s a good sign. You might disagree but think about it a little more. You’re his girlfriend, and naturally, he misses having sex with you. That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t miss all the other things as well but just because he can’t have sex with you doesn’t mean that he doesn’t still want you bad.

Maybe I am weird, but I think that it’s even kind of romantic. He would much rather ask you for your pics than look at other women because you’re not around. That’s actually him being faithful the best way he can. Try surprising him with a sexy video call so he would miss you even more. It might be impossible for him to forget the way you look, but it’s always nice to be reminded. After all, to him, you are the hottest woman in the world. Asking to see that woman even in a picture is a clear sign he has you on his mind when you aren’t there.

6. He really wants to see you

Pictures are great, but they are never really enough when you miss someone and that is why your man insists on seeing you. He will be ready to go through all kinds of trouble just to get to be with you. This is one of the clear signs he misses you when you’re not around. Even when he gets to see you, he will talk about the next time you’ll see each other and this is because he wants to make sure that that happens. 

If it was up to him, he would see you every day but  if that is impossible for some reason, you will still get to see that he puts effort into getting to see you. Still, don’t trust him just because of his words, but make sure his actions match. I once had an Internet boyfriend who sat on a bus for more than six hours just to finally be with me. If your guy is ready to do something like that, it’s one of the clearest signs he misses you.

7. He gets a little jealous sometimes

When you two are away from each other, if he misses you, he will think about you a lot. Naturally, that will get him to wonder what you are doing and who you are doing it with. Thinking about it a lot could make him a little paranoid. Imagine if you were living in different countries and he sees a picture of you with another guy on your Facebook profile. He doesn’t know who that guy is or what you have been doing with him. Naturally, that will get him to wonder if you have been faithful to him so he will get a little jealous. A lot of couples who have distance between them or are in some other way separated have trouble with controlling their jealousy.

You need a lot of trust in a relationship for it to work when you are apart. Being apart leaves your partner with no control over where you go and what you do. They aren’t really an active part of your life, so they feel a little left out. It causes jealousy, which is another one of the signs he misses you.

8. His friends tell you about it

Your guy might not tell you directly that he misses you, but his friends will surely know if he does. As I said before, he will tell them all about you. If he misses you, his friends will get tired of hearing about you so they will drop you hints. This is especially useful if your guy is actually your ex as that gives him more reasons to hide his true feelings about you. He doesn’t know if you miss him too, so he is afraid to tell you about it but his friends aren’t so will get hints that he misses you from them. The truth is, he might have even asked them to tell you about it himself. It would be much easier for him to find out how you feel by using his friends to do the dirty work for him.

If his friends contact you to tell you something about him, it’s one of the signs he misses you. Otherwise, his friends would probably forget about you because of him not mentioning you.

9. He calls you when he is drunk

When a guy calls you drunk, there are only two words that come to mind – booty call. And it often is that. Still, you have to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. Sure, he definitely wouldn’t mind getting you in bed with him, and he is most likely hoping for that but is that really all he wants? He might not have the courage to call you sober and tell you how much he misses you and that is why he is doing it when he is drunk. However, it’s hard to tell because this isn’t one of the sure signs he misses you but it might well be.

The best way to know for sure is for you to wait until the next morning to see if he contacts you again. If he calls to apologize for drunk dialing, it’s likely that you are not just a booty call to him but if he doesn’t contact you again when he is sober, he probably just wanted to get laid. Wait for him to tell you sober what he said drunk to know whether it is the truth.

10. He wants to video call you

All of us want to see the person who we miss. When the only way to do so is by video chatting, it’s the closest thing to what we really want and that is why he always suggests video calls. He wants to be able to see you. A lot of couples manage to make their relationship work even when they are far away from each other by using the option of a video call. Spending some time with you is a priority of his and that’s why he will use Facetime or any other app that will make it possible for him to see you. My husband and I lived in separate cities when we first started dating. He would suggest a video call every day, even if we had already seen each other because he wanted to talk to me before I went to sleep and get to see me some more.

Isn’t it beautiful when two people are so much in love that they can’t stand not being able to see each other? If your guy always wants to have a video call, he not only misses you but is crazy about you. Do something sexy when you are video calling so he will look forward to seeing you in person even more. My husband and I wanted to even keep the camera on when we were sleeping so we could be able to wake up next to each other in a way.

11. He makes plans for you two to meet

Waiting for so long to see you will get this guy to imagine all sorts of things that you could do when you finally see each other. After missing you for so long, he will want the day when you finally meet again to be the best day of your life; that is why he will make plans for it, and it really will be special. He might mention to you that he has something special in store for when you come over. Whether it’s a romantic date at your favorite restaurant, a picnic in the woods, or a trip to the zoo, he has it covered. When you spend some time apart and finally see each other afterward, you will see how much he missed you. He will show it to you by planning the perfect date.

A guy who misses you won’t waste a second when you finally see each other. He will want to do all sorts of things with you that he had been yearning to do when you were away. On the other hand, if he didn’t miss you, he won’t act like getting to see you is a big deal. That is how you will finally know if he really misses you.

11 Signs He Secretly Misses You

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