To My Ex-Boyfriend, Thank You

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To my ex-boyfriend, thank you…

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    I never thought I’d say this, but thank you. Because the first thing that comes to me when I think of you is indeed “thank you.”

    At the end of a relationship there is often deception and anger, but not this time. I’m not mad or sad or even frustrated. I am thankful for the lessons you taught me.

    It may seem crazy and unusual, but I needed to write this letter to make peace with myself.

    The goal of this letter isn’t to win you back, not at all. I know things between us are over. Love disappeared and you can’t order love. You don’t choose to love someone, it just happened. In our case, it happened and vanished. And that is okay.

    What I want to tell you through this letter is thank you and sorry. I am sorry if I hurt you. Because you are the last person on earth I wanted to hurt.

    You will always have a place in my heart, and the fact that we are no longer together doesn’t change that.

    With you I learned a lot. You are somehow one of the reasons why I am happy today.

    What we had was real, all the love you gave me and the happiness I felt when I was with you. Thank you for the amazing moments we spent together, I will never forget that.

    Of course, I moved on and I had other relationships, but none of them were like ours.

    I know we hurt each other, because there is no easy breakup and someone always ends up hurt. I also know that for my part it wasn’t easy at all. But I hope that someday you will forgive me. I forgive you, and like I said, you will always be in my heart.

    Also, I wanted to thank you for showing me what love truly is. Because I never felt anything like this before you, and you somehow taught me how to love.

    I have never been unhappy with you, and I want you to know that. Sure, I wasn’t always happy, but never have you made me feel sad or unhappy. Trust me, it is very rare.

    Our relationship didn’t work out, and I made peace with that. I hope you did, too. Maybe we had to teach each other a lesson. And I think we kind of did.

    Thank you for loving me the way you did. I truly hope that one day you will find someone, if you haven’t already, who makes you happy the way I couldn’t because you deserve it. You deserve all the best.

    I will always remember you. You were one of the loves of my life because I think we don’t only have one great love. You brought me so much happiness, serenity, and well-being that I am so grateful for that.

    I truly hope that you are well, happy, and fulfilled. You don’t have to write back, you don’t have to do anything. I just wanted you to know how I feel about our relationship.

    Thanks to you, I am a better person. I am more confident and now I know what love is. You showed me how a man has to be towards his girl.

    You will always be special to me. When I look back, I am not upset about us. I am proud of us. The decisions we made to split up was the best for both of us.

    So thank you for everything. Thank you for treating me like I mattered and for caring about my emotions. You made a huge impact on my life, and it was exactly what I needed at the time.

    Our relationship was a blessing, and I hope that one day you realize that you deserve nothing but the best in your life.

    I hope I made you as happy as you made me. Also, I hope that when you look back at us you don’t have any regrets because I honestly don’t. If I had to do it over again, I would.

    I sincerely wish you all the best and I hope that you are now happy.

    Your ex-girlfriend.

     

    About the author

    Kirsten Blackwood

    A mental health writer and advocate. Currently I write about depression. My work has always been centered around health as I previously worked at a variety of healthcare-focused agencies. I wanted to help people who were struggling with an illness or disability, but often times didn’t feel the work I was doing was providing the right voice to the people I was trying to help. Here, I can connect to you in your journey by encouraging you to share the good, the bad, and moments in-between.

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