Many times we hear that simple phrase, “Love is based on trust.” If you have troubles with trusting your partner, then probably you have a reason. Maybe he cheated on you or he lied about something, so it makes you insecure. You don’t want to let him hurt you.
On the other hand, it could be for no reason. You are maybe too suspicious and you know that, but you can’t help yourself. One thing is for sure—you have nothing if you don’t have trust. It is an unhealthy relationship, you can’t relax, there is no stability, and probably it is going to end.
Maybe you are not sure if you trust your partner, and these are some signs which could reveal that you are insecure.
WHATEVER THEY TELL YOU, YOU NEED THEM TO PROVE.
Your partner tells you where he was, but somehow you don’t trust him. If you can’t trust him in his words without his proof, try to find a way to work on this problem. Somehow this is your problem way more than his. Did you ever try to believe in what he tells you? How would you feel if you had to justify every move you make or everything you say?
YOU NEED TO CHECK THEIR INSTAGRAM OR FACEBOOK PROFILE.
Social media has already ruined many healthy relationships, just because someone liked another person’s photo or commented on it. You constantly need to check on his phone, especially if he doesn’t tell you his password. My advice for you is to try to relax. Not everything has to be complicated. A simple like on someone’s photo doesn’t mean that your partner is cheating on you.
YOU ASK FOR THE PASSWORD.
This is also one of the main problems in many relationships. Usually the female partner demands all those passwords in order to know every single move and chat that her partner has. Your doubtfulness needs to stop or your relationship won’t have a happy ending.
YOU ARE FRIGHTENED BY EVERY ATTRACTIVE PERSON.
When you are in a club or restaurant with your partner, you often ask him about his view of some women that are in the same place at the moment. This is, though, a double-edged sword for your partner. If he tells you that that woman looks very attractive, it pisses you off. But if he tells no, you don’t trust him. This is a huge problem of yours. It’s your insecurity in yourself; somehow you don’t respect yourself as much as you should. Try to work on it in, and I guarantee that your partner will see you differently.
YOU ARE INVOLVING YOUR PARTNER’S FRIENDS.
If your partner tells you where he was, just try to trust him. It is very unhealthy if you are calling his friends to confirm his words. This way you are showing your partner how much you don’t value what he said to you.
YOU BLAME THEM FOR NO REASON.
When people don’t trust partners, they have troubles in their own mind. They start to think over and over, and usually it turns out that everything was fine. But before you think about it, you find yourself arguing with your partner and accusing him for every problem in your relationship. This way you are only making your partner move away from you.
YOUR JEALOUSY IS UNBEARABLE.
Once again, there is no trust. If you have enough self-esteem, your partner will value you more. There is nothing to worry about if you are confident. After all, your partner chose you, not that lady he looked at on the street.
YOU CAN’T FOCUS ON ANYTHING WHEN THEY ARE OUT.
If your partner decided to go out with his friends, try to believe that. Try to not think about him cheating on you immediately. Every person needs to have their own friends to get some rest from it all. Instead of waiting for him impatiently to call you that night, try to use that time for yourself. You can call your friends and hang out, or you can read a good book, watch a movie, or do anything else that could distract your mind.
YOU NEED EVERYONE’S OPINION.
You like to tell your friends or your trusted person all about your relationship problems. No matter what, you always hear that the problem is in you. First of all, it is wrong to share your intimacy and troubles with everyone, especially if those problems are baseless and stupid. If you have issues, only you and your partner can work on them. Don’t involve other people; it has to be the two of you.
SOMETHING IS ALWAYS WRONG.
If you can’t run away from your negative thoughts, try to either fix that or leave that. Don’t stick around if your distrust is bigger than your love.
If you see a way to fix this trust, do it now. Don’t waste the time. Don’t torture yourself and your partner. On the other hand, if you don’t see a way to trust him, then tell him that. Why stay in an unhealthy relationship?