If you’re anything like me, you had a bit of a sibling rivalry with your sister growing up. There was a never ending competition to beat your sister at Monopoly and Mario Kart. Even though you always loved her deep down, it was hard to get along and be close friends.
Now that you’re older, you start to have similar interests and want to develop a better relationship. It’s easier to be friends as adults, and you can learn to appreciate your sister and spend quality time with her. You can become friends, especially if you move out of your childhood home and live apart. No more sharing a bedroom—you can share sweet memories instead.
Here are a few ways to build a better relationship and get closer to your sister.
Find a show you both love watching.
One of my favorite activities to do with my little sister is vegging on the couch with her and watching Catfish on MTV. We bonded over the show because with both love drama and making fun of stupid people. Plus, Nev and Max are super cute.
Pick a show that both you and your sister can get into and yap about together. Maybe you’ll be surprised by how much you have in common, and how you have similar opinions. You might even learn something new about her.
Gossip over celebrity news.
If you don’t have much in common (yet), figure out which celebrities you both enjoy following. Start watching something like Keeping up with the Kardashians and follow up on their lives through Snapchat and Instagram. Perhaps if you don’t like mindless celebrity nonsense so much, you can find music that you both like.
Personally, I love driving with my sister and listening to albums from our favorite singers when we were kids. Old Disney stars or guilty pleasure songs can work as well. Find some common ground with celebrities, music, or even movies and see what you can learn.
Read a book together.
If you both learn more by reading, pick out a book to read together. Check out a best seller list and make a goal to read a new book and talk about it regularly. This is especially great if neither of you are very talkative. You can spend bonding time together reading in silence. Sometimes it’s comfortable to just be in a loved one’s presence enjoying the same book.
You might even start a book club together and get your friends involved. If you grew up having different groups of friends, this could be a great way to get to know your sister’s friends and let your sister into your group as well.
Take a vacation with your sis.
This one might be a bit of a stretch, but if you can swing it, take some time to get away with your sister. Try planning a weekend road trip for a low-effort, low-cost vacation. Pick a nearby city and plan out different sights and restaurants to visit. You can take turns driving and picking out the music.
If you have a bigger budget, plan to take a fun trip out of town. Go hiking in the mountains or take a trip to the beach to lounge and chill. If you are into different activities, find a destination that combines your two interests. Spend one day walking through a city center and move onto a quiet serene lake nearby to have the best of both worlds.
Go out on a regular lunch date.
Schedule time as often as you can and stick to the schedule. Whether it’s once a week or twice a year, make sure you both have the date on your calendars and stick to it. Call your sister as often as you can and stay up to date on her life if you can’t see her in person.
If you can make time to get lunch weekly or monthly, alternate picking out lunch spots and try new food. You’ll learn a lot about your sister and bond over a shared meal. If you live in different cities, you can travel to see her as much as time and budget allow. If you’re the older sister, consider taking her out once in a while.