You loved him and it seemed like he loved you too. But then he played you and now you just don’t know why you liked him so much? I can understand you’re angry because he put you through pain and you wanna let him know how you feel… but, if you want me to be honest with you—it doesn’t make any sense. You won’t feel any better, and he won’t feel any worse. Take a deep breath and believe me, it will be alright. Soon, he’ll be just an old memory. Soon, you’ll be better than ever!
The first rule—cut off any contact. (And yes, quit stalking too.)
Delete him from your Facebook friends list. Stop following him on Instagram. Block his number on your phone and delete his contact from WhatsApp. After you did it, take a deep breath, then look at yourself in a mirror and smile. You just did the first step. Congratulations! P.S. If he calls you, you don’t answer the phone and if he sends you a message, you don’t reply. Furthermore, if he knocks on your door, you don’t let him in. As simple as that.
Put away the things he bought you. Plus, his pictures, of course.
Stop looking at him. Remove all his pictures from your phone and take his photos off your shelves. Do yourself a favor. Put his smiling face away for good. It’s like putting away his little lies.
Stop idealizing the relationship the two of you had.
It wasn’t perfect. It was NOT perfect and you know it. And at this point, you just don’t want to see it. Am I right? No, you don’t have to answer me… answer yourself.
Allow yourself time and space to grieve.
Give yourself time and space to get over it. It’s a terrible thing to go through a rough breakup so don’t force yourself to move on before you’re ready. You’re going to need the time to heal and that’s perfectly fine. Don’t forget that it’s important to have a place where you can cry, scream, laugh, get angry, or whatever you need to while you’re on your way to recovery.
Let your friends help you.
Don’t push away your friends or even your family members who want to help you or to make you have some fun to forget about what you’re going through.
Make peace with the past.
Forgive yourself and forgive him too. Do it so you can move on with your life. So you can find somebody new once you are ready.
Find a new hobby.
Find something you will enjoy. Learn how to play the guitar. Read a book or two. Start learning some foreign language. Try dancing. Choose whatever you want but find something that will keep your mind and soul busy so you don’t think constantly about your ex and the relationship you had.
Go out with your best friend.
If your friends call you to join them on a Friday night, do it. Don’t be the one who’ll stay at home crying because of the past relationship. Past is past—there’s nothing you can do about it. Sitting in your room and crying won’t make you feel any better. Fight against those bad feelings. Try to do something that will cheer you up. Drinking a beer may be the key. You’ll never know unless you try.
Accept the fact that breakups are part of life.
Breakups happen, and, as you see, life can be pretty shitty. But he’s not the only man on the planet. There are plenty of other men, so don’t give up and don’t get back to him. You don’t want to go through this again. Don’t do it to yourself. You can still love him, but you must love yourself even more. And out there is someone who will love you more than he ever loved you and surely more than you can imagine.
Remember, you will survive and you will find someone better.
Once again… something better waits for you out there. Someone better. Much, much better. Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t give up on him who is ready to love you like you deserve to be loved. After all, we’re all just looking for someone we can rely on. We’re all looking for someone to love and to be loved by in return.