Sex is no longer a taboo. One-night stands happen. It is the 21st century after all. We all at some point experience this. We go out with some hot dude, spend an awesome first date, and end up in bed. But sex doesn’t mean that there is going to be something serious after. Sometimes sex is just sex.
Some people can’t handle a one night stand, and it is absolutely okay. Also, some people can’t have sex without being emotionally involved, and there is no shame in that. There is no shame to have sex without being in love either. So, for those who don’t want things to be awkward after a hookup, here are four basic rules for one-night stands.
Don’t expect anything.
Having sex definitely makes you close to someone. After all, you were naked together and pretty intimate. But it doesn’t mean that it is going to evolve into something more. If it does, well that is great, but if not, that is totally okay. Make sure to define your intentions before the hookup so you don’t get hurt. Here is a tip for you: if you want more, don’t do it on the first date.
Sex and emotions are two different things.
Like I already said, some people can have sex without emotions, others can’t. We all have needs; sex is a very important one. The thing is, you can totally enjoy a hookup with a guy and never see him again. But it is only up to you. Of course, there is a sexual attraction between the two of you, but it doesn’t have to evolve into an emotional connection.
Having a one-night stand is some kind of experience you may enjoy. You may enjoy it to the point of wanting it again. The fact that you want to have sex again with your date doesn’t necessarily mean you are growing feelings for him. It may means that you want to have fun again…There is no shame in enjoying sex and wanting more sex.
Your body is only yours.
And you can do whatever you want to do with it. So, if you want to have sex with someone just one night and never see them after, that it is alright. But before you do that, you have to prepare yourself. You should be prepared to never see that person again. Also, it is better if you don’t expect anything from the other person. You should be the only one deciding if you want to have a one-night stand or don’t. Nobody can force you to do something you don’t want to do.
I agree, hookups are fun. You never know if it is going to be a thing or just a good night of fun. The most important thing in all of this is you. The way you look at yourself and your needs. Never be ashamed of your actions and always stand by them. Respect yourself no matter what.
Nowadays there is no shame in having sex just to decompress a little. It is very hard to find a long-term partner, and we sometimes find an alternative to fulfill our human needs. One alternative is a one-night stand.
No one can judge you for that. Like I said, your body is only yours and you can do whatever you want with it. Also, be careful. The reason why I said that is that you should be prepared to protect you. Protect your feelings, your body, and your health.
There is also no shame in not wanting to do this and be a booty call. No one can blame you for not wanting that. Some people just need an emotional connection before getting sexually involved and that is okay. But if you don’t, that doesn’t give you the right to judge the one who wants it.
Don’t do something you will feel guilty about the next day. If you are planning to have a one-night stand, at least bring condoms with you. You don’t want an unexpected pregnancy or a STI.
So, have fun, enjoy the sex, but always think twice before doing something stupid. Life is too short to have regrets.