6 Things You Should Stop Settling For

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Written by Selma

When we were children, we all had big dreams about growing up. But, sadly, many people don’t live their adult lives to the full potential. What is even worse, they are all aware of it, but do nothing to change it. We all sometimes live the lives we know we don’t deserve and often settle for less. We do it for different reasons—to please someone else, to fulfill people’s expectations, or because we are too scared to actually change anything. We keep promising ourselves that we will do better and that we are about to make necessary improvements in our lives. But, that day never comes and in the meantime, life goes on. Before you know it, years have passed by you and when you look back, you rarely did something that truly fulfilled you. You rarely took matters into your own hands. Instead, everything was in a way happening to you and you just took what life gave you. In other words, you settled.

If you truly want to change something, the best time is now. You only have one life and you should live it the way you always hoped you will. If you don’t want to miss out on life, here are six things you should stop settling for.

Being comfortable

The first thing you have to do if you want to improve your life is stop being comfortable. A lot of people mistake being in peace with yourself with being in a comfort zone, but those two have a little in common. If you want to see what you are really capable of and experience everything that life has to offer you, you don’t need to only leave your comfort zone—you must jump out of it. People are, in general, afraid of pursuing their dreams and usually settle for less just because they feel familiar with the situation they are in and they are scared that something even worse is waiting for them out there. Sometimes, people even don’t want to leave a situation that is causing them pain because they are used to it and that pain has become such a big part of them they think they wouldn’t know how to act without it. Don’t ever allow yourself to be one of those people. Do everything you’ve always wanted to do. Be brave enough do the things that scare you the most.

Unfulfilling jobs

Unfortunately, we all live in an economy that rarely gives us the opportunity to change between jobs and which doesn’t allow us to pursue the career we always dreamed about. The sad truth is that most people don’t do jobs that fulfill them and are unhappy with their careers. I know that sometimes you have to do a job that makes you miserable just to make ends meet, but if you think you are not being appreciated enough on your work position, don’t settle for it and don’t be afraid to change it. You are only young once and there is no time better than now to do it. A workplace is somewhere you spend most of your day at and it shouldn’t just be a way for you to earn money. You should look for a job that inspires and challenges you on a daily basis. When you do something you love, even if it brings less money to the table, it makes you feel like you have a purpose in this world.

Toxic people

From time to time, we all settle for people who we know are not good for us. As much as we try to change them, some people are simply toxic and narcissistic and there is not much we can do about it. But, somehow, we decide to stay around them, despite everything. We do it for different reasons—because we feel sorry for them, because they have been in our lives for too long, or because they’ve managed to assure us we can’t do better. But, relationships that bring you negativity and pessimism will only bring you down and don’t deserve a place in your life, no matter the circumstances. It is always hard and scary to cut off people that mean much to us, but it is something that has to be done. You should move away from anyone who doesn’t support you or who doesn’t bring positivity in your life. Instead, try to surround yourself with people who will make you want to improve and push yourself forward.

Unhealthy and almost relationships

Besides cutting off toxic people from your life, even more important thing to do is not allowing yourself to settle for unhealthy and almost relationships. If you are not happy in your love life, it will affect all the other aspects of your life sooner or later. You should know your worth and be aware that you deserve a committed, healthy relationship. You know that you worth more than your body and should never allow someone to make you feel miserable. If you are giving your full self to someone, the least you deserve is a person who will know how to appreciate it and who will match your effort. Anyone who leaves you begging for their attention and craving for their love doesn’t need to have his place in your life. You deserve to be your partner’s priority and not an option. Everything else is a waste of your time and energy and counts as settling for less.

Bad sex

Although this should not even be brought up and should be common sense, unfortunately, many women stay in relationships in which they have bad sex. Sexual intercourse is something both partners should enjoy and it’s always a two way street. If you feel like you are not enjoying the sex you are having, the way you should, never settle for it just to make the other person happy and pleased. Don’t be afraid if you’ll hurt their ego—be sincere and tell them they don’t satisfy you enough and that they should change. You may think it’s selfish to leave someone just because of the bad sex, but it is an important part of an adult life. If you have a selfish sexual partner that only cares about his pleasure, sex won’t be a relief for you. Instead, you will be even more stressed out and that will affect every other aspect of your life.

Not living your life to the fullest

If you are living a life full of “what ifs,” you are definitely settling for less. This means that you live it in the past or are dreaming about the future. The thing you have to care about the most is the present. Don’t ever be afraid to pursue your dreams and hopes! Enjoy your life. Live it, don’t just survive through your days. Dedicate your time and energy to yourself—to caring and loving yourself. If you don’t do it, when you look back, you will only see regrets. Maybe you are too scared to try to do something you’ve always wanted because you are afraid of failure. But you should look at each failure as a life lesson and as an inspiration to keep going.


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