You Will Find Love When You Stop Looking

you will find love when you stop looking
Written by Deborah Carbone

You might have heard this a lot. I know I have. Love will find you when you least expect it. I have heard it from friends, from my mom, and (this one’s a cliche) from some old, wise people in my life. When you stop actively looking for it, expecting it, that’s when it’ll appear. You will find love when you stop looking. 

In a way, it might be a smart thing to do. If it’s meant to happen to you, it should be able to find you anywhere.

Bear in mind that you shouldn’t force it.

Letting it happen by following its own course is guaranteed to be much less exhausting and worrying. Stop wondering if the one for you is there already. When it is time, when you are ready to handle it, that is when it should enter your life.

You will finally be able to understand why  all of the relationships from your past were failures.

When your ”the one” finally enters your life, you will realize all the questions you have had have gone away. That love that was made specifically for you will shed the light on all your breakups. It will help you understand every time you had to let go of someone you were certain was right for you.

When the one deserving of you becomes a part of your life, you will be free of all the times you have asked yourself ”why?” You will understand that it had to happen the way it did, because it lead you to one person that you will always be happy for entering your life. You’ll look at them and think how over the moon you are for the fact that your relationship is the one that worked out best.

When you stop actively looking for love, you will finally find the way to start loving yourself.

When all you do is focus on looking for a person to spend your life with, you neglect yourself. When you stop doing it, when you stop worrying, you will discover you have so much time to invest in something better. You have time to invest in yourself. To work on yourself and to become the person you always wanted to be.

Don’t be stuck in one place, just waiting. Live your life. Enjoy the solitude. Life in two is beautiful, but it is also very different. Sometimes you will catch yourself missing being alone.

Also, when you finally love yourself, you will feel liberated. You will not doubt in yourself, and it will be a life changer for you. It will make it easier for you to be a happy, strong, and confident person in your relationship. And it is much better than being mistrustful and doubting your self-worth, always thinking your partner might trick you or leave you.

You’ll finally believe you really deserved that love.

You will realize your worth, and when that happens, you will become aware of all the other things you deserve. Things that shouldn’t be perks, but every person’s right when they are in a relationship.

You will realize you deserve appreciation and admiration. You deserve to feel important and pampered. You deserve honesty and consistency. You deserve the greatest memories of the love you cherish so much. You absolutely deserve the kind of love that is true and intense.

You’ll finally believe real love does exist.

When that love you’ve been expecting finally comes for you, you will be blown away by the ease of it. You will discover just how natural it can be, how little strain it will cause.

It’ll become your biggest inspiration and a wind to your back in achieving anything. You will be wondering where it has been hiding all your life and couldn’t it have been there sooner. But you will be grateful it came at all.

That’s why it’s important to remember that if you want that one true love in your life, looking for it will be of no use. You will just be wasting your time and energy on something you can’t rush. On something that will only appear when you are ready to handle it. And when that true love does appear, it will be the best thing of your life.

You Will Find Love When You Stop Looking