It’s the most beautiful time of the year. It’s the time of the year when we are all overwhelmed with positive emotions, and one of them is kindness. But what we all seem to forget is that we should behave in the same manner during the whole year, and not only during the holiday season. It’s the time of the year when we summarize the past 12 months, and among other things, when we think about all the good and bad things we did during the year. What is your final score? Were you good this year and do you deserve a present from Santa Claus? Were you nice to everyone?
Everyone is always advising you to be tough and to always stand up for yourself and put your needs first. I am all for that, but sometimes people a mistake fighting for themselves with rudeness. There always exists a way of standing for what you believe in, but still remaining polite, nice, and kind.
Besides, when you are nice to people, it is a clear sign of high self-esteem. If you are insecure and don’t feel good about yourself, you are probably afraid of the way people perceive you, and you will do anything in you power to be seen as strong by others. In modern society, somehow, kindness is usually perceived as a weakness. But it is everything but that. If you manage to hold your tongue from time to time, it is a sign of great strength and self-discipline because that is not always an easy thing to do. I am not saying you shouldn’t express your opinion towards a subject, I’m just saying there are always kinder and nicer ways to say something. You don’t need to be aggressive in your dialogue with others.
You never know what someone is going through at the moment. Remember that everyone you meet is leading some kind of battle and is fighting some inner demons. We all have some problems, and while nobody is obligated to be a psychic and know other people’s struggles, it doesn’t cost you anything to brighten someone’s day from time to time. How many times you have been in a situation when you had a shitty day at work and felt low, and someone’s smile or a random compliment suddenly made things better? Be that person for others!
You may think that people don’t appreciate kindness and that everyone will use you if you are too nice to them. But, although you think that nobody will be affected by your kindness and that it will go unnoticed, think again. You never know how and who you may impact with simply being nice.
Besides improving other people’s mood, being kind will also make you happier and will make you feel better about yourself. When you force yourself to put on a smile even when it’s not one of your best days, eventually, that fake smile will grow into a real one. If you manage to channel your thoughts towards positive things, you will automatically start feeling happier and will chase away that negative energy. And in most cases, people’s behavior towards you is only their reaction to the way you treat them. Although there always exist exceptions, most people will respond to kindness with kindness.
We are not always aware of the image about ourselves we give out to the world. Although you should never depend on other people’s opinion, you don’t have to be a source of bad energy either. If someone is mean to you without an apparent reason, just try to put yourself in that person’s position and try to get to the bottom of their behavior. It doesn’t always have to be personal, and maybe you are the one who can help them overcome what is bothering them. I am not saying you should allow yourself to be someone’s doormat—you can be kind and stand up for yourself at the same time.
If you believe in karma, you know that your behavior will come back to you in one way or another. You should always treat others the same way you would like to be treated. You never know when you’ll need someone’s support and words of encouragement. Remember, what goes around comes around!