Although many women need years to realize and accept it, a girl’s relationship with her father influences her choice of men. The communication and the relationship we have with our fathers, while we are little girls, is the first contact we have with the opposite sex. After all, our father is the first important man in our life, and it is perfectly normal to compare other men to him. Your father helped you shape your image and views on men in general. It doesn’t mean that women confuse the role of the father and that of the lover, it just means that we often look for fatherly qualities in our partners.
Whether you like it or not, the relationship you have with your father will affect the type of men you will date. There is a saying that we all end up marrying a version of our dad. We often choose guys who have similar personality traits as our fathers because they were the first men we loved in our lives, and therefore, we subconsciously learned to love that kind of men. Besides that, we already understand the type of man our father is, so we have the bigger possibility of understanding and connecting with someone similar to him.
Growing up, most of us idolize our parents and want to be as similar to them as we can. Although we think this changes with time, it actually doesn’t. There are many girls who are considered to be too picky and who stay single for a long period of time because they can’t find a man who will suit their standards. These girls usually perceive their father as the perfect man and simply can’t find anyone to measure up to him.
If you had a loving and caring father who was also a great husband, you will try to look for a relationship that will mirror your parents’ marriage. You are searching for true, unconditional love because you know it exists, despite what everyone else is saying. You have seen it in your parents. If they could have it, why wouldn’t you? If your father always loved and protected your mother and your family, you probably don’t want to settle for anything less. You don’t want an immature guy who will not be your equal partner in life. If you have a strong, supportive, secure, and communicative relationship with your father, it is likely that you will be able to create and maintain an emotionally fulfilling relationships with other men in your life.
But, what if you grew up without a father or had a toxic relationship with him? Actually, most girls who had a bad relationship with their dads and whose fathers didn’t care about them are looking for extremely opposite partners. They know how destructive some personality traits can be for an entire family, so they try to avoid them right from the beginning. They don’t want their future children to go through the same things they had to experience.
But, on the other hand, there are also girls who subconsciously look for men who have the same type of negative behavior as their fathers. Although they are aware that the relationship they had with their fathers was everything but healthy, they run into something familiar. These women sometimes find themselves responsible for not being able to emotionally fix their dads, so they are looking for men similar to them, so they can help them become better people. Without even being aware of it, these women think that by healing this men, they will heal their fathers. In this way, they try to compensate for the relationship they didn’t have with their fathers.
When it comes to girls that didn’t have a father figure in their lives, they usually tend to look for older and more mature men who will provide them with the support and care they never received from their dads. This doesn’t mean that those women are emotionally broken; it just means that they are missing a father figure, even if they are not aware of it. They want responsible men who will support them, look after them, and take care of them, because those are the things they never received from their dads. These women are usually independent and strong, but for them, the biggest proof of love and affection is caring for them. They can do a lot of things on their own, but they enjoy when they can be vulnerable and helpless in front of someone, because for a change, they want to be taken care of.
No matter what group you belong to or what kind of relationship you had with your father, it will shape your taste in men, in one way or another.