No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship, no one deserve to be abused.

Abusive relationships are very common these days. Sometimes it is really difficult to break up with a person who you love more than yourself, although you know that your partner is abusive. Like I said, no one deserves to be in that kind of relationship. All of us deserve a healthy relationship with a partner who will love us and care about us. If you have a feeling that you are trapped in an abusive relationship, but you are not so sure, then you should look into that.

Here is a list of signs to recognize an abusive partner and abusive relationship.

I really hope that you won’t find yourself in any of these signs, but if you do, you need to know that you are allowed to end that relationship. You don’t have to be scared, because you have every right to leave a person who is abusing you.

They humiliate you or make fun of you in front of other people.

Your partner isolates you.

They don’t seem to care about your feelings.

They regularly disregard your opinions, ideas, or needs.

During normal conversations they make you feel like you don’t understand anything, or like you’re always wrong.

They tell you what you need to do with your hair.

They threaten you to maintain control.

They prevent you from doing things you want, like spending time with your friends or family.

When you don’t agree with them, you hear things like “you’re crazy,” that “this is all in your head,” or that you’re making a big deal out of nothing.

Arguments tend to escalate, quickly.

Their actions make you feel weird, or question whether what happened was normal.

They become defensive and blame you for their abusive behaviors.

They make you feel like you are to blame for their aggression or threats.

Constantly calling or texting when you are not with them.

They say that other people shouldn’t interfere in a fight between a couple, and that your problems are “a couple’s thing.”

They use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things.

They think they have the right to control your life and your choices.

Your partner makes excuses for their behavior or tries to blame others.

They use intimidation, like hitting a wall or other objects, to scare you into being complicit.

Provocative behavior with the opposite sex.

They regularly point out your flaws or mistakes.

Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions.

There’s verbal abuse.

They make you believe it’s all your fault.

Your partner is emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable.

They don’t harm you, but they express their aggressiveness by slamming on tables, doors, and other objects.

Your partner makes subtle threats that might be disguised as a “suggestion” to help you.

You’re on a daily emotional roller coaster.

They try to control you and who you hang out with.

Your partner dismisses you or gives you disapproving looks that make you afraid or nervous to be alone with him or her.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.

They accuse you of things that aren’t true, then forces you to “prove” your love.

You feel like you need their permission to go out somewhere or see someone.

Abuser “never hit you,” but you often have bruises they caused, or they use physical force “to calm you down.”

They make you feel unworthy without them.

You’re nervous around them.

They try to control your finances and how you spend money.

No matter what you do in the relationship, it’s never right and it’s never enough.

You feel trapped.

They don’t react well to your achievements and the good things that happen in your life.

Your partner wants to control all aspects of your life.

They belittle or trivialize your accomplishments.

They tell you that no one will ever love you, accept you, or want you besides them.

You go out of your way to make them happy.

They are constantly being aggressive or violent, but each time they promise they won’t do it anymore.

You start believing you’re the problem.

Your partner seems to have more than one personality.

Your partner makes excuses for their behavior or tries to blame others.

They don’t like when you talk to other people, especially when they’re not there

Your partner tries to control every move you make and every word you say.

They invalidate or deny abusive behavior when confronted.

They try to make you believe that the only opinion you should listen to is their own.

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