Life Relationships

Starting Over Is More Than Just Saying Goodbye

Written by Deborah Carbone

Starting over is coming to terms with the rough ride that awaits for you, because it sure will not be easy. But a new beginning does not have to be a bad thing. Having things you cared about in your life come to an end does not have to mean hurt and sorrow. Look at it this way—to start from the top is your chance to rewrite your life’s story. It is a chance to have a better life, just the way you always imagined it. It is also a way to survive everything you never thought you would.


    A new beginning means to have another choice. It means to have even more to choose from. You get to be your better self. You get to leave behind all the bad memories and thoughts that were only hurting your progress. You get to push bad people out and surround yourself with a different kind. With those people that radiate light and joy towards you. With those people who will have no problem with loving you the way you are. With those people who will have your back and help you go after the change you seek for yourself.

    To make peace with the fact that you need to let go and start anew is not a small feat. But getting there means that you are coming to terms with the reality that your life can and should take another path. An unfamiliar one, but also a better one. You start to see that you should never accept less. You learn to recognize the silver lining in parting with people and bits of your life. You are finally aware that there would be no farewells if those places and those people were meant for you. You become ready to go somewhere where you will feel free to be who you are without ever having to justify any part of your being.

    Being fine with the new beginning ahead of you means you have seen it all go to ruin before, but you have also figured out a way to rebuild all of it. Now you know how to take all the bad and broken, all the hurt and confusion, everything that was destroyed and taken away from you, and shape it into a wonderful new world for yourself and your loved ones.

    You will not be afraid to make mistakes anymore. You will not fear to test out what you are capable of only because you’re scared of trying and failing. You will not let yourself wallow in everything that could have been, but never did. When you decide to dive headfirst into your fresh start, it will be a sign that you are taking matters into your own hands. You are finally aware that you are the one who is in control, and only you can decide which path your life will follow.

    Finally, when you begin your life from scratch, you will learn not to see it as a failure. You will see it for what it is. An incredibly courageous step in the right direction. So yes, starting over is more than a simple goodbye to someone. It is saying goodbye to yourself and everything you used to be.

    You will have no more fear in you towards anything that might come. You will not fear loving and connecting again, even after having felt on your skin what exposing your heart to people can do. Even after knowing that it could be broken once more. It does not matter because better things are on the horizon, and you know that if your heart is closed when they come to you, you will miss your chance once again!

    Starting Over Is More Than Just Saying Goodbye

    About the author

    Deborah Carbone

    I'm a Life and Relationship Coach with 5 years experience of coaching and training. I work with overwhelmed women guiding them through all kinds of life and career transitions so that they can make big changes in their lives.
    Writing is my passion and I am here to help you through every phase of your life. I hope you'll enjoy.