“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
This quote is one of the many Marilyn Monroe quotes circling the internet. I can’t say with certainty that it isn’t just one of many wrongly attributed ones. But I do feel like it really has a point there.
When things go wrong, the first thing most of us do is to start beating ourselves up. You start going through events that lead to that complete disaster, trying to figure out why it happened. Could you have done something differently? But don’t beat yourself up. You had to have figured out by now that, sometimes, certain things are not meant to last. Good things fall apart, and in my opinion, that introductory quote sums it up perfectly.
People change so that you can learn to let go.
Over the course of years, people will be coming in and out of your life. Not everyone who you wanted to stay in it will be deserving of it, though. That’s how it is sometimes. You try to hold on to the wrong people. Time ends up being the only thing that will eventually uncover their true face, because only with time they shed their masks. They change, and it becomes obvious that it’s time to let go. It becomes easier too, because they stop being people you cared about in the first place.
Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right.
If your life is always just peachy, soon enough you will forget how precious having it that good really is. When finally some small, easily solved struggle comes your way, you will see how easy it is to become ungrateful for everything else that is going great. And it will happen because you forget what it’s like to have to deal with really hard situations. That is why I think it is good to go through some hardships from time to time. Fighting your way through them makes you a stronger person, and it reminds you to never stop being thankful for everything that is good in your life.
You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself.
All of us start this life’s journey looking at the world through rose-tinted glasses. We are not yet aware of the dangers in not knowing who really deserves our trust. We are also not aware how important and liberating it is to know that you do not have to rely on and trust anyone but yourself, if you don’t want to. There’s a great lesson to be learned when you finally come across dishonest people. A lesson that can only be acquired through personal experience. You will have to fall for some lies before learning to discern the trustworthy from liars. That lesson might be a tough and painful one, but it will also be the one you will not forget.
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
As I mentioned at the beginning, some things are just not meant to last. Whatever the reason for it might be, do not let it bring you down. Stop constantly pulling it apart, trying to see where it went wrong. You are not doing yourself any favors. Instead, keep this in your mind—where one door closes, another opens. Maybe, just maybe, something much better is waiting around the corner, and it can never happen until you’re freed of your old life.