Do you have a feeling that you are not allowed to say anything in your relationship? Do you keep your mouth shut every time you are angry and mad because you are afraid to say what you think?
And do you do things you don’t like at all just to make your partner happy? Maybe you are really a nice person and your partner is using that, or you are just afraid to say what you want. This kind of relationship is not a healthy relationship at all. You don’t have to be afraid, you are able to say whatever you want. Communication is really important, so don’t be afraid to say what you want.
First of all you need to work on your self-esteem. In an unhealthy relationship, your partner usually uses your low self-esteem just to control you. Your partner is using your fear so he can easily manipulate you. You need to be free to express whatever you are feeling without fear. Actually, you are allowed to share your opinions, you don’t have to feel fear.
There are many things that you are afraid to say your partner, but actually you can say “no” without fear. You can refuse everything you don’t like.You can refuse sex, you can refuse any type of treatment or any situations if you are not comfortable with. In every relationship where you are afraid to say no, not free or actually not safe to say no, you don’t need it, you are allowed to leave that kind of relationship.
Whenever your partner makes a mistake or does something that hurts your feelings, you are allowed to say that your feelings are hurt, or that they made a mistake.
You can’t be afraid to tell them things that are bothering you. Whenever your partner says something with which you disagree, you can’t be afraid to express your disagreement. If your partner does something and you actually don’t like it, say it, don’t be afraid.
Whenever you have an opinion about something, say it, your opinion matters.
In a healthy relationship you are completely allowed to say your opinions. But if you have a fear when it’s time to say your opinion, it can be sign that you are in an unhealthy relationship. Don’t be afraid to talk about your needs, you should never be afraid to tell your partner exactly what you need. Also, you are able to talk about your dreams, your fears, your wishes.
If you are listening when your partner is talking, don’t be afraid to talk too; your partner has to listen to you. You are allowed to tellyour partner things that scare you. Actually, you are allowed to talk about your feelings and emotions. Don’t keep all those things inside you. Stop being afraid. If you are supporting your partner, also they have to support you. So, don’t be afraid to talk about any of these things, because you are allowed to talk about them.
Also, you are allowed to talk with your partner about your plans, your future, your everything. Don’t be afraid to say what you want. Conversation is a key to a healthy relationship, if you are constantly afraid to say what you want, maybe it is time to ask yourself whether you are in a healthy relationship. Do you really want to stay in an unhealthy relationship where you are afraid to say aloud things that you want to say? If you find you are unsafe to express yourself in your relationship, maybe it is the perfect time to leave that kind of partner. A partner that made you feel fear in every situation. No one deserves that treatment. Not you, not anyone.
Relationships are beautiful, they should be full of love and respect.
If you are stuck in a relationship where you are not allowed to say what you want, or you are afraid to say what you want, maybe you should leave it. No one deserves to be in unhealthy relationships, neither do you. Unhealthy relationships and abusive partners will ruin your self-confidence, your value, your everything. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship where are you not afraid to say what you want.
“Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.”- Virgil Thomson