People who hurt you and who don’t care about your feelings don’t deserve a place in your life. But, unfortunately, we usually take a long time to realize this obvious truth. You have probably had a lot of guys who kept hurting you, but you kept them in your life because you loved them or thought they would change and realize your true value.
A person who enjoys hurting others is a destructive force in your life. The key is to distance yourself from that person as much as possible and instead surround yourself with caring people who impact your life in a positive way.
Before you start with the process of not allowing yourself to be hurt by the guys who don’t deserve you, ask yourself what brought you to that situation in the first place. Why are you constantly picking guys that don’t deserve you? Why are you constantly letting people who hurt you to stay in your life? You probably feel like a magnet for the wrong guys. Without even being aware of it, you keep choosing emotionally damaged guys who have all the predispositions to hurt you in the future. Remember that someone can hurt only when you give them that permission. You are the one who allows him to play with your emotions.
The best way to stop this from always happening is to take control of your life. You need to learn to be strong and not to care about the people who keep making you feel miserable. You have to ask yourself why you continue to expose yourself to people who don’t care about you or your emotions. Do you love yourself enough when you are consciously putting yourself through these situations? When you learn to love and value yourself enough, you will automatically demand respect and appreciation from those around you.
Most guys who hurt you are very well aware that you are being hurt. But, they simply don’t care. So, stop trying to understand him and why he is behaving the way he does. Don’t feel guilty or pressured if you still care about him, it’s perfectly reasonable to have feelings towards someone who was a part of your life. Don’t feel guilty for letting him hurt you, it was never your fault. Forgive yourself for having chosen to expose yourself to people who don’t care about your feelings and help others do to the same.
The first step in your recovery is always forgiveness. You don’t need to forgive him for his sake, you need to do it for your own sake. Be the better person and elevate yourself from the situation. Resentment and anger will only fill your life with negativity. Even if you don’t forgive him, he will continue with his life and you will be the one held back by this situation. It’s important for you to learn to accept the apologies you never received, as hard as it can be sometimes.
The next step is walking away. The best thing you can do is to keep distanced to avoid future problems. This guy will probably try to come back in your life because he doesn’t think he has done anything wrong. To stop yourself from letting him in your life again, block every possible contact. It may seem immature, but it’s crucial for your mental health. Delete him on social media, change your phone number if necessary. Tell yourself you are done being around him and every other guy who doesn’t care about your feelings. Whenever you think about going back to this guy, reprogram your brain and force yourself into thinking about something else.
Surround yourself with positive people who bring positive energy and positive thoughts. Don’t be afraid to cut off anyone who doesn’t suit you. Work on your personality and improve yourself in any possible way. Become your own number one. Nobody will appreciate you until you show them your true value. Once you become your own priority, once you realize how special and important you are, you will look for guys who are worth your time and energy. I am not saying you should become selfish in your relationships, you should just demand the treatment you know you deserve.