Having a true best friend is marvellous. A true best friend will always have your back, will support you no matter what, and will stand up for you in every possible situation. When you have a best friend, you have a life-long loyal companion and someone you can tell all of your secrets and rely on. But sometimes even our best friends can betray us and leave us hanging. When you depart with your best friend, this can be even more painful than a break-up. Your friend also can break your heart.

That is why you should love and appreciate yourself more, no matter how much you love someone or someone loves you. The harsh and painful truth many people don’t want to accept is that everyone in your life could walk away and have the option of leaving you someday. You are the only one who can’t and won’t walk away. Of course, you should value the relationships with the people around you, but you should value the relationship you have with yourself more. The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.

People tend to look for love, respect, and appreciation from external, temporary sources and from other people. That can’t be more wrong. You should try and find happiness and joy inside yourself and not expect someone else to provide it for you. But, many don’t realize the importance of self-love and self-admiration. Nobody is telling you to be an egomaniac or a self-centred person, but you must learn to value yourself. Because if you don’t, nobody else will.

You are the one who should take your own life in your own hands, choose to be happy, and push yourself forward. In this way, you will have control of your actions and emotions and of your life in general. You cannot control what happens around you, but you can control your reactions. And you can’t expect anyone to constantly advise you or to be your shoulder to cry on. You have to become your own voice of peace and your own rock.

Diane von Furstenberg once said, “When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is easier.” When you are younger, you may misinterpret this sentence. But, this quote doesn’t advise you not to have friends or to be a loner. As you mature, you realize the true meaning of this sentence, and you realize that you are indeed your best friend. People come and go and no matter how close you are with someone, they have their own problems and dilemmas and can rarely dedicate their lives to being there for you.

When you are experiencing some kind of problem, people who love you will be there for you, of course, but you cannot expect everyone’s lives to stop just to support you. Sooner or later, you end up with your own thoughts and feelings. You are the only person who will always be there for you, 24/7. You are the only one who doesn’t get to leave, you can’t have a break from your own brain and emotions. Knowing all this, you should be aware of the fact that you are your own best friend. Who can love and cherish you more? Who can you trust more than yourself?

Besides this, you should treat yourself like you treat your best friend. You will always encourage your best friend in everything she does. You will believe in her, even when no one else does. And you will be there for her even she does something wrong. You will always stand up for her and defend her in front of everyone. So, why are you not treating yourself in the same manner? You would be more self-confident, braver, would feel better about yourself, and would be happier in general if you treat yourself like this. There doesn’t exist a person that deserves for you to love and appreciate them more than you love and appreciate yourself. You should always be your priority.

That is what being your own best friend actually means. It means putting your own emotions and needs first. And it means loving and valuing yourself. It means believing in yourself and always encouraging yourself.  And it means fighting for your own happiness. It means self-love. And there is nothing more important than that.