Being in a relationship can be awesome and fulfilling, but only if you are with the right person. Many people make mistakes and seek for a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. People are generally afraid of being alone. In our society, solitude is presented as something terrifying and awful. But, it doesn’t have to be. I personally think that most divorces, break-ups, and heartbreaks are caused by the fear of solitude.
People think it’s time to settle down and are afraid they will end up alone, so they get into a relationship with just anyone. Some are desperate for love and attention. Most get involved with someone just because “it’s time,” because they think they are alone for too long, because of the pressure by the society, friends, or family. These are all wrong reasons to be with someone. It’s always better to be alone than with the wrong person.
Sometimes, we are so desperate for love and affection that we look for it in the wrong places and in the wrong people. We hope that wrong people will fill the emptiness in our lives. We all want to be loved and to love someone and that is perfectly normal. Besides love, whether you like it or not, we all want attention. There is no person who doesn’t enjoy being the center of someone’s world. That makes us feel special and important. But, many women make the same mistake over and over again and that is trying to find someone to complete them.
Nobody can complete you, if you don’t feel completed on your own. A boyfriend can make your life more awesome, if he’s the right one. But, nobody can magically heal you emotionally until you heal yourself. If you have some emotional issues, you will keep having them in a relationship. If you are hoping that a guy will make everything okay and that your only problem is being single, think again. Maybe you have some deeper emotional issues if you are so afraid of being with yourself. You are the one who needs to face your own demons before hoping to have a healthy relationship. Of course, if you are happy and satisfied with yourself and then find the right guy, a quality relationship can only make you happier.
Strong women have learned and realized this with time. The first sign that shows your strength is your capability of being alone. If you are single and alone, it doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely. It’s always better to spend quality time by yourself than in bad company. You don’t need negative and toxic people around you. You can only become negative and toxic if you are around those people. It’s always nice to have friends or a boyfriend, but sometimes it’s nice to be alone with your thoughts.
When you are in an unhealthy relationship, you feel emotionally and physically exhausted and it drains all of your positive energy. When you concentrate on yourself instead of looking for a partner, you can get to know yourself better and consequently learn what you are looking for in a relationship. Also, you will have more time to work on your personality and will have more energy and desire to improve yourself.
It’s okay to be single by choice. Of course, you will miss many things about being in a relationship. But, trust me, it is way more tiring to be in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil you and with the guy who is not giving you enough love and attention you want and deserve. With time and after numerous wrong guys, you will learn to realize that looking for the right guy is not as important as it may seem. You need to realize that you are a powerful and independent woman who doesn’t need a man to give meaning to her life. It’s important for you to learn to love and respect yourself before you expect love and respect from others. If you boost your self-confidence, every guy will know he has to appreciate you.
Never crave for love and affection. If you do, you will only appear desperate and you will only bump into wrong guys. Once you become the person you want to be without anyone’s help, your self-esteem will grow, you will be happier with your life, and the right guy will come. Until then, enjoy your freedom and remember that it’s always better to be alone than in a bad company. The most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.