Love Relationships

You Need a Good Man, Not Prince Charming

When we were girls, we dreamed of Prince Charming. We wanted him to be gorgeous, and we could not imagine ourselves with someone who is not exactly like the one we were thinking about.


    Maybe you had one of those guys when you were in school. Yet, it often happens that those guys actually don’t have some special qualities except they look awesome.

    Today, after having some experiences, you realize that you need a good man, and he is your Prince Charming. It only depends on the way you look at it. There is no perfect man who is waiting for you and looking forward to being faced with your problems or to save you from yourself. If you are waiting for that one, you should give up. They don’t exist.

    We are not girls who have so many troubles expecting someone to fix them for us. Also, we don’t need Prince Charming, but way more than him. We need a real, good man.

    – You don’t expect anyone to save you.

    I don’t need a person who would save me from my problems. So, a man doesn’t have to act brave. We only need them to be our consoler, when we need comforting; and we need them to be with us after we fight some troubles, to cheer with us.

    – Importance is in what is inside.

    The true value of you, to every woman, isn’t how you look; your muscles or your legs. It is more important if you have good skills in understanding, loving, and honesty. To make thing simple, the size of your heart is what is worth.

    – I know how to mind myself.

    We usually know how to take care of ourselves. You don’t have to expect from your man to be there for you financially or to protect you in any way, because you cared of yourself even before he came into your life. It is only important that he is there when we talk about feelings and emotions. So long as he is good at loving, you will care about yourself and your personal things.

    – Proving your love can be done in so many ways.

    It means that man doesn’t have to do those stupid things, like to beat someone on the street, just because the other guy looked at you. It means the opposite. You two should back up each other when making decisions. You also should know that you are on the same team. It will give strength to both of you.

    – Perfection doesn’t exist.

    No man is perfect, so don’t expect to find one. It is unrealistic and childish. Your man can only try to be better from day to day, but you cannot look for someone with perfect behavior, willing to proceed continuously, without you being a good person.

    – There are no wonder women.

    Considering that all of us are faced with different stressful situations, we all expect some private space. The thing is, you cannot expect private space if you are not the one who can give it. Be reasonable if you know that your man is trying hard to deal with all of his daily issues.

    – No one can read each other’s thoughts.

    There is no sense to ask someone to know what you are thinking about. It is important to listen and respect what you have to say to each other. There is no place for complaints.

    – Hero can be anyone.

    Yes, but anyone who admits that he made a mistake. Man doesn’t have to make it right by doing big things to earn forgiveness. It is enough if he tries to fix what he broke.

    – We can travel in an emotional way.

    Man only needs to cheer us up, and we are going to feel like we are flying. There is no space for rethinking whether he is the right man or not. We know for sure if we are at the right place with the right person.

    You Need a Good Man, Not Prince Charming

    About the author

    Kirsten Blackwood

    A mental health writer and advocate. Currently I write about depression. My work has always been centered around health as I previously worked at a variety of healthcare-focused agencies. I wanted to help people who were struggling with an illness or disability, but often times didn’t feel the work I was doing was providing the right voice to the people I was trying to help. Here, I can connect to you in your journey by encouraging you to share the good, the bad, and moments in-between.