Some friendships aren’t meant to be, but that doesn’t stop it from hurting. You feel the strain as you drift apart, and then the inevitable snap as you disconnect from one another for good. You can’t help remembering all those fun times you had together, and how you won’t have any more of those together. But there are some silver linings to any situation, even if it doesn’t feel that way. Here’s how to deal with losing a friend.

  1. Remember the good times fondly

It’s easy to be bitter and angry about the way things ended between you, but it will twist you up until all you’re left with is hate. Like with a breakup, try and look back on your memories and find the good you once saw in each other.

  1. Remember that you have other friends

Even if you’ve fallen out with your very best friend, you still haven’t lost everything. You have a strong net of friends, and now is a time to give them some more appreciation. Spend time with the people you haven’t seen much lately, and remind them how important they are to you. Sometimes when you’re fixated on one person, you can neglect people that matter. Make up for lost time with a good catch up and try to forget that someone let you down.

  1. Remember that you’ll always meet new people along the way

You have many years ahead of you. In that time, you’ll start new jobs, join new activities, and even meet more people online. Some friendships simply don’t last, but you’ll always come across new people. If you don’t know how to deal with losing a friend, try something new and embrace meeting new people wherever you go.

  1. Remember that you’re not the only one to ever lose a friend

It happens to all of us at some point. Sometimes we argue with our closest friends and break apart. Sometimes, our friends move away and it becomes too hard to stay in contact. Sometimes, we even lose friends through death, and we spend months mourning what we’ve lost. But we’re not alone. If you want to talk to someone who has been through the same as you, ask your elders. They’ll have had every kind of friendship breakup you can think of. They have experience, so let them talk about what’s happened to them, and learn from their stories.

  1. Remember that sometimes, people deserve second chances… how to deal with losing a friend ? Get them back.

Reflect on what happened to break you up in the first place, and then question whether it’s worth a friendship being destroyed. It has to be a mutual rekindling, but why not give your friendship one more shot? You’ll always regret it if you don’t.