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You Won, When You Lose Someone, But You Find Yourself

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Written by Lauren Dover

We were dating for a long time, and I thought that you are the one. Because I was giving my best, and you were everything for me. I didn’t have anything except you. But you weren’t thinking that way about me. And that shattered my soul. You shattered my soul. And broke my heart. After our breakup, I thought I wouldn’t be whole again.


    After our relationship ended, I haven’t seen you for a while. But in that time I have met so many people, and I have traveled many places. Then, you showed up again, just like that.

    You didn’t change at all. You are still a guy whom I fell in love with. And you are still that guy who broke my heart and shattered my soul. Damn, you are still that guy who taught me so many lessons about self-love and rejection.

    Actually, you didn’t change, but you know what, I did.

    At that moment when I saw you, I saw your face from that day when you left. And in that moment I realized that I’m not the same person. I’m not the same girl. Now I’m better, I have changed into the best version of myself.

    I have always thought that when I saw you, that meeting would bring back those bitter memories, but I didn’t even remember the pain. Maybe just a little bit, but it doesn’t hurt anymore. Actually, I forgave you.

    After all this time, I realized that I wasn’t the one who lost. You did. It was your loss. Not mine.

    I was ready to be there for you in your difficult times, but you lost me. And I was ready to be there for you when no one would be, but you lost it too. You lost someone who was ready to stay, no matter what. So, it was your loss, not mine.

    And if any of you who are reading this is wondering when you will move on from that person who is not worth any tears. This story is for you. This is for you, and for the guy who broke my heart.

    Maybe now is hard to believe that you will move on because your heart just shattered into pieces, but you will heal. It will be hard, but you will be ok. You will survive that pain. I have been there and I know that is the worst feeling ever. But I promise you, everything will be fine.

    Time will heal your wound. Your heart will need some time to accept the pain. It may take days, weeks, months, or maybe some years, but don’t worry, you will succeed.

    You will find a strength to heal in new experiences and in new people. Maybe someone who you met yesterday will pick up the pieces of your heart. And all those people who came into life or will come, won’t ask for the reason why was your heart shattered, or by who. They just will be there to make the best memories with you. With them, you are going to forget the past. You are going to forget the one who broke your heart.

    Do whatever you want, take your time, and be happy. Meet as many people as you can. And learn as many lessons as possible.

    Fall in love with yourself, and don’t be afraid to fall in love again, until you know the meaning of true love.

    Be fearless and find out what you want and what you need in your life. Travel, party, do whatever you want. And you will see and you will be amazed how you have passed the pain without your concern.

    Love yourself, and you will be proud of making it this far. And you thought that without that person who once broke your heart you won’t be whole again. Look at yourself, you are fine. Don’t you see that you don’t need them in your life? And you thought you will be dead without them. You don’t need them to fix your heart. You have yourself, and that is all you need.

    Maybe losing people hurts, but just remember, if you find yourself when you lose them, you won. It is your victory darling.

    You won.

    You Won when you lose someone, but you find yourself

    About the author

    Lauren Dover

    My name is Lauren. I am writer by day and hopeless romantic by night. I live my life with a simple motto. "What can I do for you?". I strive to help readers gain an understanding of intense emotions, like heartbreak and getting through it. I think together we have the ability to overcome the challenges life throws our way and even in those times you hit rock bottom, I see it as a wonderful platform to begin again.