There are times when we come to a crossroad and have to be decisive and make up our minds about the things that will affect our entire lives. One of the most important things for our emotional health is knowing when to fight for someone or something and when to walk away. Walking away doesn’t always have to be the sign of weakness. Sometimes, knowing when to walk away is a sign that you are incredibly strong.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you need to give up on everyone in your life or walk away with the first problem on sight. You can’t have perfection in any relationship and there will always be fights and disagreements. But, when the arguments become constant, when you start feeling unhappy and miserable most of the time, when you can’t bear the stress anymore and when you feel you are about to snap, it is probably time to consider walking away. There will always be bad and good times, but when the frequency of bad times significantly outweighs the good times.
No matter how strong your emotions for someone are, you should always love yourself more and put yourself first. Because no one else will. When you are in a toxic, emotionally abusive and tiring relationship, the bravest thing you can do is to walk away. Maybe you think you can change or fix someone, but you can’t. The more probable scenario is that you will absorb his negative energy and become similar to him. You have probably taught of walking away numerous times, but your hope in better tomorrow stopped you.
It is crucial for you to realize people rarely change and even when they do, they do it for themselves and never for someone else. Another reason that may stop you from leaving is guilt. You feel like you are the only light at the end of the tunnel for that person. You think you are the one only positive thing in his life and if you leave him, he will be all alone, with nobody to support him. But, it’s time to admit to yourself that you will not any good if you stay. You have done everything you could and more, but this person just drains you emotionally and it’s time to face the fact that this relationship is defective.
Walking away is maybe even more difficult when it comes to your life-long friends and especially family. You can face this decision in a relationship with anyone close to you. And the guilt is even bigger when it comes to your parents or siblings. No matter how toxic they may be, you feel obligated to stay by their side.
The true way to happiness is putting you first. This doesn’t mean you should be selfish and self-centered, it just means you need to take care of yourselves. If you walk away from someone for your own good, you are just showing you care what is best for you on long terms. You are also brave enough to admit that things with someone didn’t work the way you planned it. You should not see walking away and giving up as your own defeat, you should see it as a chance for new victories in life.