People react to breakups in different manners, but every heartbreak and is emotionally challenging. But, picking yourself up after the end of a long-term relationship can be one of the hardest and most painful things you will go through in life. But, most of us go through this experience at some point. The biggest problem is the fact that when you end a long-term relationship, you are not losing only a romantic partner, but you are also losing one of the best friends you’ve ever had. He is the person you talked to about everything and who was there for you in your hardest life situations. And now you have to get used to a life without him. But don’t worry, it will take time, but you will be alright. Millions of people have gone through similar situations and they are all ok. It seems impossible in the beginning, but with time, you will learn how to recover after a long-term relationship.
Admit it’s over
The first thing you have to do is to admit that your relationship is over. You have lost a part of your personality and it’s time to recognize it. This is at the same time the hardest thing for everyone. Initially, after a breakup, we all tend to hope that this is not the final end. But, you need to force yourself and kill all hope inside you. The faster you realize that this is not something temporary and that he is not coming back, the faster and easier will be for you to get over him. Don’t waste your days and weeks waiting for him to call. He won’t. And you will be ok with it!
Allow yourself to be sad
After a breakup, you tend to feel the widest possible range of emotions: sadness, anger, stress, confusion… But, at the core of all of these emotions is pure sadness. While you are in the mourning phase, the worst thing you can do is to repress your emotions. Your sadness will catch up with you sooner or later. It’s important to face your deepest feelings. Don’t be ashamed of them or think you are weak if you express emotions. No one reasonable will expect you to immediately recover from break up. It’s ok to talk about him to others in the beginning (but try not to exaggerate and bore them), this is the person who was a huge part of your life for years and you can’t act like he never existed.
Hang out with friends, start going to the gym, learn a new language… Just don’t sit at home. You are probably feeling incapable of going out, but that will be your best cure. At first, you will think and talk only about him and your heartbreak, but with time, it will be impossible for you not to engage in other conversations. Before you know it, you will catch yourself not thinking about him for the entire day.
Give yourself time
Don’t rush yourself into getting over him. And don’t let anyone else rush you by telling you that you are taking too long to recover. Everyone has a different pace and everyone recovers in a different rhythm. The biggest mistake you can make is to enter a new relationship while you’re still not over your ex. You will hurt your new boyfriend and you will hurt yourself. Give yourself the time you need before moving on. And give time. Although you may not believe it and think it’s just a phase, time truly does heal all wounds.