Being a woman in the modern world is tough. Equality is supposedly achieved, but women are still fighting for places on the career ladder. Women are still expected to give up their career before their partner for domestic duties. Women are still earning less for the same jobs. So how do we conquer these injustices? It’s not an easy question to answer, but there are a few things you can do to help yourself and others.
1. Only date someone who will support you in your career
Whether you’re dating a man or another woman, if they don’t support you in your career, you need them out of your life. Your partner should want you to do well, and it should never feel like a competition between the two of you. You may have very different careers, or be in the same field, but there is no reason to add a competitive element to your relationship. It’s unhealthy and will get you down.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others
Maybe someone you know just got a promotion, or started a job at a new, interesting place. You can feel like you’re not moving forwards when everyone is changing around you. However, not everyone progresses at the same speed. Just because you’ve been in the same position for four years, it doesn’t mean you’re not getting closer to your goals. Not everything happens overnight, and if you’re comparing yourself to someone who does something completely different, there’s no way you’re being fair to yourself.
3. Measure your success fairly
If you are comparing yourself to someone else, ask yourself whether you’re comparing yourself fairly. Your success will vary depending on experience, age, time with a company and a million other factors. If you’re comparing yourself to a co-worker, it may be easier to gauge whether you’re moving at the same pace as them, but otherwise, it’s too hard to tell.
4. Ditch anyone who says you can’t reach the top
You don’t need anyone’s negative attitude bringing you down. If someone is trying to tell you that you can’t succeed and achieve your goals, then you don’t need them in your life. You know your own abilities better than anyone, and you have logically thought about where you can reach. Someone who tries to burst your bubble is likely jealous, and doesn’t deserve your time and energy.
5. Support your fellow women
Women struggle twice as hard to reach the top. Every woman has that in common. Never let bitterness or jealousy cloud a relationship with another woman – they’re just trying to get to the same heights you’ve reached and hope to reach. Support one another, and help each other along the way – and remember, what you give, you get. Every woman you support will have your back too.
6. Don’t give up
When times get hard and your goals seem unreachable, don’t give in. Always have your goal in sight, and focus on getting there at any cost. Keep fighting because you know in the long run, it’ll be worth it.
7. Fight harder and longer
For a woman, it can always feel like an uphill battle. You feel like getting to the top is impossible, but it takes perseverance. Grit your teeth and battle through to the bitter end. It may take you longer than your male counterpart, but you’ll get there.
8. Believe in yourself
Don’t give up on yourself under and circumstances. You make your own destiny, and giving up early on means you’re set to fail. Don’t allow that to happen. Keep yourself motivated, forward facing and in the zone. It will all be worth it when you reach the places you’ve worked so long to get to.