A Message to All My Overthinkers Out There

Written by Lauren Dover

It’s okay. I do it too. I can’t sleep at night thinking about too many things at the same time. My mind wanders way more than it should. I am never living in the moment, because there are too many future moments to worry about. Let me be that person and tell you guys right now- we need help.


    I just graduated. Instead of celebrating and attending my convocation, I wondered should I show up at all- what’s the point in celebrating the endings, what if something goes wrong, what if I should be doing something else right now, what am I gonna do next?

    I am traveling abroad next week. What if my flight(s) get delayed, what if I don’t make it, what if the weather is awful?

    I am in a relationship- what if this doesn’t have future, what if I need to breakup now before bonding more with this person, what if we are not meant for each other?

    “What ifs” are every overthinker’s worst enemy! We create a myriad of hypothetical outcomes before we even step out and do what needs to be done. Most of the times, things we worry about are either very unlikely to happen or they are out of our control, yet they keep us up at night.

    So, first, I need you to know it’s okay- you’re not alone in this and yes, I do know how it feels.

    However, you also need to gain control over your overthinking process.

    We tend to worry about both past and future, both of which we have no control over, so let’s instead try to focus on where we are right now.

    Although it seems impossible to stop your thought patterns, that mainly happens because you didn’t acknowledge that there is a problem.

    Once you do, and once you call it by its name- it becomes easier to cope with it. Think strategically- whenever you start overthinking catch yourself in the process and immediately occupy your mind with something else. Go for a run and listen to your favorite songs- focus on your breathing and the lyrics.

    It might not seem true- but you have control over your mind and you should start practicing it.

    If this seems like “running away from a problem” and “delaying overthinking”, then do what you do best-think, but in a slightly different way. Instead of dwelling on a problem, become a problem-solver.

    Dissect the situation in your head. If it’s something you have control over- start acting right away. If the situation is way too hypothetical- challenge your thoughts. In other words, rather than asking yourself “What if *insert the worst-case scenario*” ask yourself “what if not” and channel your thoughts in a positive direction.

    It will take forever, yes, overthinking is not simple to get rid of. But start now by acknowledging the problem. Are you an overthinker?

    About the author

    Lauren Dover

    My name is Lauren. I am writer by day and hopeless romantic by night. I live my life with a simple motto. "What can I do for you?". I strive to help readers gain an understanding of intense emotions, like heartbreak and getting through it. I think together we have the ability to overcome the challenges life throws our way and even in those times you hit rock bottom, I see it as a wonderful platform to begin again.