You finally found someone who makes you happy and now you might have to be apart for a while?
Sure, take your time to be upset and freak out a bit. When you’re done, take a deep breath and look deeper into your relationship. Here are some things to consider.
- Hey, look at you considering it!
The fact that you’re even reading this and thinking about trying to work it out is a step. It means you care about this person enough to reconsider your beliefs and try to keep them despite the distance. That’s something! Take it one step at a time.
- Take a close look into the circumstances?
Do you really have a reason to freak out a lot? Is it just temporary? If your “long distance” has an expiry date and they are coming back, or you are coming back, or you two have the same plans in foreseeable future it is easier to accept the challenge.
On the other hand, if you are jumping into a relationship knowing you will have to work hard to see each other and make your paths cross you have all the reasons to be afraid. Though, don’t forget that there is nothing wrong with being afraid, if you’re willing to make it work- you will!
- You can still do a lot of fun stuff together!
We live in the high tech age! That means you get to have skype dates, long calls, texts and cute Snaps. It doesn’t seem ideal, but it’s something. At least you get to see their pretty face and hear their voice.
- Communication, communication, communication!
Yes, opportunities are endless but it might be hard for some of us to basically transfer our lives online. Guess what? No need for that. It’s really not about how much time you spend talking to them, but how good your communication is. Make them feel included, and make sure you feel included. Long distance relationship is a learning process for both of you and words are all you have for a while. Go ahead and use them!
- There is nothing wrong with trying!
You don’t know if you don’t try. Yes, it might not work out, but you will be able to look behind you and be in peace with yourself. You didn’t just let them go, you tried. Sometimes that’s the best we can do.