A girl who is used to be on her own built her world on her own. She built her walls of protection so high. She will be the toughest nut to crack, and those walls won’t be broken easily. Because those walls were just her walls. And that’s her shell. That world belongs only to her. It protects her, keeps her safe and maintains her.
She will be unlike any other girl. That is guaranteed.
It’s going to be hard for her to find some space for someone else.
She would say she doesn’t need you. She would say I can do this alone. She would say I can handle this. So she’ll sound like a one-woman, independent broken record.
That’s true. She can do it alone. She can handle that.
But she doesn’t mean she doesn’t want you. It doesn’t mean she wouldn’t enjoy your company.
She doesn’t have to do this alone. She doesn’t have to handle everything by herself.
Being on your own becomes your comfort, your safe place. You are only minding yourself. You only worry about yourself. It can be lonely, but it’s a softer lonely. Your loneliness becomes familiar and almost beautiful.
And your world of loneliness shakes up when someone else comes in. Your routine shakes up too.
For a while, there is going to be some adjustment. There’s going to be some give and take. Some fear on her end. There will also be the fear that if she does let you in, does trust you, that she’ll stop being comfortable on her own, and start to only be comfortable with you.
And that fear of getting comfortable with another person is: “What do I do if he leaves?”.
Loving a girl who is used to being on her own is loving a girl who is scared.
When you love a girl who is used to being on her own, be prepared to stay.
When she says that she can do it, say that you can help.
Learn about her world, her life. And respect it.
When you become a part of her world, her life, and her heart, she will be ready to never let you go.