Dating is full of ups and downs, but did you know it can be full of secrets as well? There are some things people prefer not to tell their partners, and this time a couple of women confess the one secret they’ll never tell their boyfriend.
It’s not like you’re lying; you’re just keeping some things private, right? When I first thought about this, I realized that I have a little secret as well. I don’t like my boyfriend’s tummy and I try to find subtle ways to tell him that. I know he can’t change that overnight and I don’t want him to feel bad.
Do you have something you’re not telling to your partner? Are you ready to hear stories of these brave women that shared them with me? Buckle up; some of them are unpleasant, others completely the opposite.
1. “I was abused as a kid.”
“I think the darkest secret I’m keeping from him is that I was abused as a kid. He knows some parts of my horrible childhood, but I was never completely honest. I think it would destroy him if he knew all the details.
He’s really protective and caring. If he’d known what I’d been through, it would hurt him too much. He’ll blame himself for not being able to help me. I don’t want that…”
2. “He wasn’t there when I needed him the most.”
“This may sound a bit harsh, but he wasn’t there when I needed him the most. I can blame myself for not being straightforward enough, but I think that when you’re in a long-term relationship, you can sense when your partner is not feeling well. At least I do…
But he’s always helping me with any minor inconvenience, he treats me like a princess and I love him wholeheartedly. That’s why I’ll never tell him this.”
3. “I accepted his marriage proposal because of financial security.”
“I’m not a gold digger, to clear that up. But, I grew up in poverty and when a genuine wealthy man noticed me, I grabbed the opportunity. He’s every woman’s dream and I’m trying to be worthy of his love. I honestly love him more every day.
It just eats me up when he talks about the start of our relationship as something magical, as love at first sight. In those moments I just smile and look away, because I’m the only one who knows the truth. I love him unconditionally now, but going back to the day when I said “yes”, that feeling didn’t exist.”
4. “I don’t like that he’s not moving forward.”
“Ugh, don’t let me sound like I’m complaining about everything he does, but I think it’s not enough. I don’t like that he’s not moving forward and he’s content with the minimum amount of respect he gets at his workplace. I know he deserves more.
Whenever I tried to tell him something about it, he’d say how the promotion is just around the corner. It’s been around the corner for the last three years… I’m worried that he doesn’t care and that if I ask something again, he may lose that little motivation he has.”
5. “I still have feelings for my ex.”
“Oh God, does anyone want to admit this to their current partner? I think not. And, the worst part is that I’m sure I’m not the only one. I still have feelings for my ex. Every single time I see him my knees start to shake and I feel like I’m going to fall.
My now-boyfriend is such a perfect guy and he doesn’t deserve this. I think that these feelings will eventually disappear, I just have to be patient. After all, we’ve been through a lot together, so maybe I just miss those good old times, not him…”
6. “I’m flirting to get what I want.”
“I’m constantly flirting to get what I want and it starts to worry me. When I’m waiting in a line, I flirt so the other person would let me go in front of them. I flirted my way out of punishment for fast driving recently and I got a free drink at the bar because I twisted my hair a couple of times.
I know he considers flirting as cheating and he’d leave me in a heartbeat, but I can’t help it. That’s why I’ll never reveal this to my boyfriend.”
7. “I can’t imagine my life without him.”
“But seriously, I don’t know who I am without him. I can’t tell him that I can’t imagine my life without him because I may scare him off. I think I’d even hurt myself if he’d leave. I don’t think this is healthy, but I don’t know how to control it.”
8. “I cheated on him.”
“This is definitely not something you want to brag about, especially when you know it was a huge mistake. I’m still trying to forgive myself for what I did and it hurts me that I’m not honest. But I’m not sure he’d be able to forgive me and I love him endlessly. I really do.”
9. “I have mental illness and I’m afraid he’ll leave me.”
“I have BPD (borderline personality disorder) and a lot of normal relationship situations can drive me nuts. He knows that I went through a traumatic experience and that I’ve been trying to heal. But, there are times when I’m worried he’ll simply leave.
I’m afraid that he’ll get tired of helping me. He sometimes feels that he’s the only one fighting for the relationship and I can’t change that no matter how hard I try. I don’t want to lose him, because he’s the best thing that ever happened to me.”
10. “I prefer creamy peanut butter.”
This may sound silly, but I prefer creamy peanut butter and I’ve never told him that. I buy the extra crunchy one because he adores it. It’s love, isn’t it?”
11. “I know what he wants to say, but I let him struggle.”
“You know when someone’s trying to find the proper word to tell you something? That’s when my boyfriend makes the cutest facial expressions and I fall in love a bit more every single time. I know what he wants to say, but I let him struggle. Am I a terrible person because of that?”
Maybe your secret isn’t as scary as some of these? Is it as candid as a couple of stories some women shared? Are you considering revealing it to him? If you are, good luck gal pal. You can do it!