Many things can go wrong in a relationship. People don’t put enough effort in or they put up walls and stop showing their affection.
These things are a huge deal.
Relationships are a lot of work, but with the right person, nothing seems like a chore or like a burden.
You might think that you are in a relationship with the right person but you still have a weird feeling that it’s not going in the right direction.
In a relationship with the right person, you won’t make these mistakes, for sure:
1. Your relationship won’t negatively impact other areas of your life
In the right relationship, you won’t have to quit your hobbies or ignore other aspects of your life for them.
In the right relationship, you don’t have to change entire parts of yourself to fit their picture of perfection.
If you have been ignoring your friends and family members because of your partner, then it is a problem.
You have to have a nice balance between your own life and your relationship. No one should let their partner have so much power over them.
2. Your relationship won’t make you feel anxious
It not that rare to mistake anxiousness for butterflies.
You feel a tingling sensation and you think that it’s the butterflies from the beginning of the relationship, telling you that you’re still affected by them.
Believe me when I tell you that no butterflies will be present in your relationship when you feel comfortable enough with your partner.
You feel anxious because you’re scared to make a mistake around them. You’re afraid that they might get mad at you for things you might do or say.
Your stomach is telling you that you shouldn’t be in that situation so it’s sending out a warning.
However, if you’re in the right relationship, this won’t happen.
3. You won’t feel insecure when you’re with your partner
When you’re in a relationship with the right person, they will make you fall in love with yourself. The right person will never make you feel insecure.
You’re in the wrong relationship if you doubt your worth or if you’re insecure.
Or when there is nothing that indicates your partner is trying to help you love yourself.
When you’re with the right person, they love you so much that you start to see yourself through their eyes.
4. You won’t let your partner make all the decisions
If he never lets you pick the restaurant you’re going to or if he laughs at the movie choices you made in the past, you know that it’s best to leave the decision-making to him.
You convince yourself that it’s better if he makes the decisions; then you won’t have to feel embarrassed about yourself.
He won’t be mad if he makes the decisions. He won’t lash out at you.
You’re just making sure that you’re not put in a position where you feel bad about making a decision.
It makes you feel inferior so you try to avoid this situation altogether.
In the right relationship, you won’t be doing this.
5. You won’t spend too much time apart
Just like spending too much time together can be a problem, spending time apart is even worse.
Of course, you both need time for yourself but if you willingly spend too much time apart, the relationship won’t last.
You’re in a relationship with the wrong person if you choose to spend time apart again and again and this is a huge issue.
You choose to spend time apart when your partner doesn’t make you feel good.
So you end up choosing anything and everything to do to avoid spending time with him.
You won’t spend much time apart if he’s right for you.
6. You won’t be constantly jealous
A little bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship. It adds a bit of spice into the mundane day-to-day life.
Being constantly jealous is a clear sign that you’re not in the right relationship.
This correlates to the fact that your relationship makes you feel insecure when your partner always makes you feel like you are not as good as other girls.
This is what makes you feel like other girls are your competition. You see him looking at them and you curse their existence, feeling jealous and insecure.
Why would the right guy let you feel like this? He wouldn’t.
7. You won’t fight more often than not
Fights are inevitably going to happen. There isn’t a perfect relationship out there.
A problem occurs when you’re fighting more often than not and then you have to tip-toe your way through the relationship.
There is always something that makes you mad, or he doesn’t listen, and you’re fuming.
Or you want to spend time together but he goes out without you again, and of course, it’ll make you furious.
If you’re in a relationship with the right person, you will have more peace than fights.
It’s that simple. If you’re both fighting so much, then it’s not meant to be.
8. You won’t be constantly paranoid
You’re not in the right relationship if you’re constantly paranoid. You don’t feel safe and he just makes it worse by being secretive.
There is always a feeling at the back of your mind that tells you to check your purse, check your phone. You simply can’t fully trust him.
You’re even paranoid about other women around you, because you always have a feeling he’s checking them out.
Or they’re checking him out? Who knows?
It makes you feel like you’re crazy, but you know that you have a real reason to feel paranoid.
Needless to say, he isn’t the right person for you.
9. You won’t keep secrets from him
You don’t do it on purpose. It’s just that you simply know that he would lash out at you if he knew some of the things you’re keeping from him.
You’re keeping little things from him for your own safety.
Maybe you even know that he wouldn’t care enough so you spare him the trouble of knowing in general.
The right partner won’t make you feel like you have to keep anything from him. He’ll understand and support you. He’ll be there for you no matter what.
10. You won’t keep a timeline of your relationship
Shouldn’t things go naturally?
If you’re keeping a timeline on how and when you’ll sleep together, how and when you’ll get married and have kids, this is not the right relationship.
You’re keeping a timeline of your relationship and you’re pushing the agenda because you have a feeling like he’ll move on from you if you don’t.
It’s there to give you security because your partner isn’t able to.
When you’re in a relationship with the right person, you don’t have to think about this.
The right partner will make you feel secure and safe to the point where you will let things happen naturally.