Sometimes you feel like you are the most beautiful and gorgeous woman on earth, but sometimes negative thoughts occupy your mind and you may or may not start to question not just your looks and appearance, but your personality as well.
Most people will tell you that attraction comes from physical appearance.
And yes, while that is partially true, your character and personality are what will make your man stick around.
Looks fade, and character stays, you know. I had this notion that a person is born with their personality.
I thought Mother Nature does her thing and with a bit of nurture, you will develop an outstanding personality that everyone will love.
Well, I know I’m wrong now because you can develop your personality in certain ways to the point where it becomes natural for you to behave that way.
Every person is unique in themselves, but most of us strive to improve no matter what. And every person has traits that make them attractive to others.
The problem seems to be that they do not know how to bring out those most attractive traits.
You have to learn the methods and you need to be constantly improving yourself, because let’s face it, the competition is tough.
You may even ask what makes a girl attractive to a guy? Is it her appearance, or is there something more to it than just looks?
Human beings, and especially men, are visual creatures, and your looks are one of the first things they feel attracted to.
However, what keeps a guy close to you and makes him fight for you is your personality.
Feeling good about yourself is the first step toward feeling more attractive.
Your relationships and your life in general will be much easier if you don’t spend time second-guessing whether or not people like you.
If you feel unattractive now, here are some ways that you can boost your self-esteem and make you love yourself all over again:
1. Go easy on yourself
You don’t have to take yourself too seriously to have steady relationships and love in your life.
It’s okay to be imperfect and have flaws. It’s those flaws that the other person has to accept if they want to be with you.
It is important to choose non-toxic and supportive people and surround yourself with them.
If you hear some negative comments about yourself, those are not insults to your character so just try to shake them off and move on.
You can even try to have a good laugh at yourself by making a joke, as it will definitely ease your mind.
Don’t try to accept what others think about you. Put yourself first. Who knows you better than you know yourself?
No one. Their opinions cannot define who you are, so it doesn’t matter what they have to say.
2. Learn how to ease your mind
If you don’t feel attractive right now, it might be because you are carrying a lot of stress and negative thoughts inside of you. Don’t!
An instant attractiveness booster is when you ease your mind and start to work on your inner self. Do you know the saying ‘you attract what you exude’?
Well, the same applies to your feelings and inner self. If you feel positive and good about yourself, it will be visible to others.
You will instantly be more attractive to others if you resolve those negative thoughts and feelings inside you.
3. Never doubt yourself!
Listen, you are a wonderful and gorgeous woman. And you are competent enough to do whatever it is you set your mind to.
You should always be positive and resolute when making decisions and executing them.
Learn to trust your instincts and judgment, and you can always ask your family or friends for a couple of suggestions to receive a fresh perspective.
However, in the end, it is you who will live with your own decisions, and even failures if those happen.
You always have room for improvement. When you succeed at something, you will immediately feel more attractive.
4. Be zealous about your work
Everyone loves a person who talks passionately and enthusiastically about what they do.
If you try to land a guy, being enthusiastic about your work will make you more attractive to him.
No one enjoys hearing someone complain about their work while they do nothing to change that.
I know it is hard to find your passion, and some are lucky to find it while they are young.
However, don’t be discouraged to continue seeking it, if you haven’t found it yet.
Others will be astonished and compelled when you talk about your passion, and they will try to help and support you.
If you feel less attractive now, believe me, the universe has its way to present opportunities to you, you just have to be passionate and enthusiastic.
5. Be humble
While being confident and passionate about something is important, you should never overdo it or else you will come across as cocky or narcissistic.
And let’s be real, no one likes a narcissist.
By showing confidence, you are actually showing someone that you know what you are doing.
If you show other people that you are a humble and down-to-earth person, others will love you for it.
You should never go around and tell people how humble you are. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
You should not be proud of something that could disappear, as nothing remains forever.
Remember not to be narcissistic and let other people talk about you when you are absent.
6. Always find reasons to be happy
In today’s world, it is hard to stay happy, I know. But for your own mental health, you should try to be.
If you have toxic and negative people in your life, leave them. If you don’t like your job and you feel miserable all the time, you have to go to work and quit.
Life is never easy. Life comprises of happy and sad moments. It is up to you how you want to spend the rest of your life.
You wouldn’t know what happiness meant if there were no sad moments that tore your soul apart.
Those tough times that you are facing right now? They will pass, trust me. They shouldn’t affect your future.
If you don’t shake them off, they will become your burden that you will carry your entire life.
7. Start flirting
Well, the goal of flirting is to make yourself more attractive and feel good about yourself.
When you flirt with someone, you know you can become the subject of their desire.
Maybe try to flirt with some guys a few times and if nothing happens, it shouldn’t be a big deal.
Maybe one guy wasn’t into you or you weren’t into him. It doesn’t matter, as long as you feel great about yourself.
8. Smile more
Nothing is more attractive than a beautiful and impressive smile. When you smile, you instantly become more attractive to another person.
It’s one of the traits of people who have an outstanding personality.
Your smile should exude confidence. If you don’t feel like you have a perfect smile, don’t worry, no one has.
Practice a few times in front of the mirror so you won’t give off any creepy vibes.
There are different kisses and there are different smiles, remember that. A smile is contagious. If you smile, it will help others smile too.
If you feel stressed, laughter can be a brilliant way to ease up. It will help you relax and help reduce your stress levels.
9. Take care of yourself
If you want to be more attractive to others, then you should start by taking care of yourself.
When you do this, you are more attractive because it shows to others that you practice self-care.
Others will see that you have self-discipline and you will immediately be more attractive to them.
When others don’t see you as a burden, then they can see how beautiful and gorgeous you really are.
Maybe you could start exercising or change your eating habits.
Make that morning run a daily habit and you will notice how differently people perceive you.
10. Be open-minded and experience new things
When you try to experience new things, you gain confidence and you will instantly be more attractive to others.
Guys especially love girls who are open-minded and open to experiencing new things.
You should give yourself the chance to enjoy new adventures and make fresh memories.
After all, guys like girls who are ready to broaden their horizons. Maybe if you try out rock climbing, you might meet a potential partner.